One reason people may find discussing intelligence uncomfortable is the belief that it is something you are born with and so you can do nothing to influence it. This undercuts social equality and feeds into the link between intelligence testing and eugenics, which still looms large for many.
Exercise: the brain generates new neurons when you exercise, and interestingly, even if you take long walks.
Thinking: once neurogenesis is achieved through exercise, the newly-minted neurons die out naturally unless you strengthen them. This is done when you push your brain to its limits, like solving tough mathematical problems, write a non-trivial computer program, write philosophy, and so forth.
Mirroring: the brain has mirror neurons that pick up at the subconscious level whatever it finds in its vicinity. If you are surrounded by smart, intelligent, and wise people, you will slowly become more and more like them. The converse is true too, so avoiding morons is imperative.
Sleep: when you sleep at night, and early, getting 8 hours and waking up without an alarm clock, you allow your brain to optimally function.
Brain food: certain foods are superfoods for the brain. Dried wolfberries for overall mental optimization, blueberries for enhancing memory, and walnuts for repair, for instance. Have 5 walnuts a week, at the very least. Look, it even looks like your brain. If you can’t have walnuts, consume fish, twice a week.
De-stressing: stress reduces brain plasticity, causing mental retardation (you will make bad choices), suggestibility (you will usually agree to whatever people say), and ultimately depression (you will begin to despise yourself). On the flip side, removing stress from your life increases and improves your brain capacity and function. How to de-stress? Avoid the potential sources of stress instead of forcing yourself not to re-act is one method. Another is exercising and building muscle, as muscles absorb your daily stress, leaving your brain free and intact.
Reading: updating the cognitive riches of your mind can have long-lasting and life-changing benefits. Read great books by excellent authors, and see for yourself how quickly you will begin to see the world through the new lenses acquired from your readings.
Love: yes, indeed. Having love in your life (when you hug your loved one) causes the brain to release oxytocin—the feel-good neuro-chemical—which improves brain function and strengthens your willpower. If you have trouble with human love, get yourself a pet, a cat will do. Cats show humans a great deal of love and are lovable creatures.
For many years, the search for specific intelligence genes proved unfruitful. Recently, however, genetic studies have grown big and powerful enough to identify at least some of the genetic underpinnings of IQ. Although each gene associated with intelligence has only a minuscule effect in isolation, the combined effect of the 500-odd genes identified so far is quite substantial.
“We are still a long way from accounting for all the heritability,” says Plomin, “but just in the last year we have gone from being able to account for about 1 percent of the variance to maybe 10 percent.”
So genes matter, but they are certainly not destiny. “Genetics gives us a blueprint – it sets the limits. But it is the environment that determines where within those limits a person develops,” says psychologist Russell Warne at Utah Valley University.
“About 50 percent of the difference in intelligence between people is due to genetics”
Consider the height, another highly heritable trait. Children will grow taller if they eat a nutritious diet than if they eat a less nutritious one because a good diet helps them achieve their full genetic potential. Likewise with intelligence.
Iodine deficiency during childhood is associated with lower IQ, and addressing this in developing countries has boosted cognitive skills. So too has treating parasitic worms and removing lead from petrol.
Other environmental influences on IQ are not as obvious. Cases of abuse and neglect aside, twin studies reveal that the shared family environment has only a very small effect on cognitive ability. Plomin, therefore, suspects that intelligence has less to do with parenting style than chance.
“It’s idiosyncratic factors that make a difference,” he says, “like the kid becomes ill or something like that – but even then, children tend to bounce back to their genetic trajectory.”
There are many more but this answer will become too long otherwise.
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One of the ways to know yourself is to give dignity to any beautiful person. Love him Atmanang Bidhi has been mentioned in Indian philosophy. That is to know oneself in a strong way. Discover me.
If I could recognize you, if not the beauty of life – then what do I know about myself? I like the late actor Irrfan Khan’s lunch box movie very much. And the story of knowing oneself is linguistic throughout the picture.
To truly know yourself is the most important skill you can every possess. When you know who you are, you know what you need to do, instead of looking for permission from others to do what you already know you ought to do. It allows you to bypass tons of frustration caused by putting time into the wrong things. Yes, life is supposed to be full of trial and error, but this lets you find the best areas for you to experiment in the first place. Once you know yourself, you will become more confident, you will understand your purpose, and you will begin making a bigger impact on the world.
So how can you know who you are and what you ought to do in life? Here are the six steps you need to take in order to know your true self:
1. Be quiet.
You cannot and will not be able to know yourself until you take the time to be still. Many people don’t know themselves because any sort of silence scares them; it’s too uncomfortable to be alone with every flaw staring back at them. But it isn’t until you get alone, evaluate yourself, and are completely truthful with yourself that you will actually be able to see every facet of your life—the good and the bad. Be quiet and discover your true self.
“Observing yourself is the necessary starting point for any real change.” —Chalmers Brothers
2. Realize who you truly are, not who you want to be.
I know you already have a set idea of who you desperately want to be, but it might not be who you were designed to be; this is why knowing who you really are is so important. When you know who you are, you will finally see where you and your specific gifts fit into the bigger picture.
And although there are many points along your journey to help you discover yourself, the best way to begin is to take a personality test and the StrengthsFinder test. (If it’s been five or more years since you’ve completed either of these, take them again.) No, these self-evaluations aren’t perfect, but they do pinpoint your top areas of strengths, so you can focus on the change you were meant to bring into the world.
3. Find what you are good at (and not good at).
This might be the most difficult step in the process of finding who you are, but it’s a necessary one. Sure, it takes trial and error to find what you’re good at, and no, I don’t want you to give up before you’ve had more than enough attempts, but knowing when to quit is a gift that everyone needs to learn.
Quit when you’ve put in ample time and your efforts aren’t giving back in return. What is ample time? Only you can decide that. But when you quit correctly, it isn’t giving up, it’s making room for something better. When your actions do nothing but drain you—rather than produce more passion and increase your drive to do more—that’s a good sign it is time to focus elsewhere. Your strengths will show you who you are.
4. Find what you are passionate about.
Following a passion of any kind is a good thing, and you need to pay attention when it comes because it indicates an area of life that you need to pay more attention to. If we’re talking about following your passion for work, it’s a good thing. And if we’re talking about having more passion for life, it’s a good thing. Focus more on passion; understand yourself in better ways, and you’ll make a bigger impact. Passion produces effort and continuous effort produces results.
5. Ask for feedback.
If you don’t know yourself, hearing what others have to say about you is a helpful practice. Ask them two simple questions: “What strengths do you think I need to develop further?” and “What weaknesses do you think I need to work on?” Of course, their opinion isn’t going to be perfect, but their feedback will probably indicate a few areas you should at least take a second look at. This step is especially important for those who are stuck in finding themselves. Sometimes those closest to us can see something we might not be able to see in ourselves.
6. Assess your relationships.
A large aspect of knowing yourself can be found in your relationships. When you realize you’ll never truly know anyone else until you discover yourself, the importance of knowing yourself becomes even more apparent. This truth especially rings true for business leaders, because if you don’t know the people on your team, then you will be lost as a leader. But this rule also applies to any relationship in your life. Almost as much as you need to know yourself, other people also need to know who you are. People need you—the real you.
Use your reflections to fight your biggest fears, because when you understand who you are meant to be, your purpose will finally become bigger than your fears. When you realize who you are, you will spend less time spinning your wheels. Focusing on your strengths gives you the needed traction to begin making a bigger and better difference in the world. When you know yourself, you will find more peace, and you will find success quicker than ever before.
There are only two steps to success: Discover your brilliance and perfect it. Doing this will allow you to receive the wealth you truly deserve. The only waste of human resources is letting them go unused.
There is a general stereotype that intelligent people are childish or immature.
Why is that? Apart from the fact that some people appear childish and some of them are intelligent, is there any link between the two? Let’s explore 2 things in this post – What makes someone intelligent? and What makes someone appear childish?
Let’s assume that this notion is partially true – Some Intelligent people are childish, just like some unintelligent people are childish. We are only looking at why some intelligent people appear childish or why this stereotype is believable. We should first ask ourselves what is it that makes any person childish and intelligent at the same time.
Is it their behavior? Their thought process? Their speech? Their dreams and ideas? All of it, perhaps?
We should also look at intelligence from a general point of view because when we judge others as intelligent, we aren’t putting them through tests. Intelligence is the ability to adapt, reason, and solve new problems and we judge people as intelligent or not intelligent based on certain tell-tale signs. We use cues that we associate with intelligence based on common sense, knowledge, or experience (which overlap well with scientifically supported correlates of intelligence). These signs of intelligence are usually – good memory and thinking ability, good attitude and hard-working nature, general and tacit knowledge, language proficiency and reasoning, decision-making, trust, creativity, achievements, and problem-solving.
All of these help a person adapt to a new situation and cope with problems. So judging someone as intelligent is an educated guess based on what cues you value and what you think intelligence looks like.
Intelligence comes on many levels. It can be the ability to reason, think, and solve problems on-demand (fluid intelligence). It can be the ability to use previously learned skills, knowledge, and methods (crystallized intelligence). And, it can be domain-based such as music, art, mathematics, language, sports, etc. Or it could be a general off-shoot of cognitive abilities (mental processes). If we see hints of excellence or achievement in any of these in other people, we tend to label them as intelligent people.
Stereotypes and judgments of intelligence
Some people tend to think of intelligence as a counter-balance to other deficits – to justify or rationalize something. You’d hear mothers describing their children as – “he is very impulsive and reckless, but he is smart, he can focus when he loves to do something.” Another possible perspective on a child’s intelligence – “My kid is very impulsive and odd, maybe he is a genius??”
So judgments of intelligence are not always true reflections of intelligence – they are sense-making judgments. These are extended to evidence-based cliches like super-intelligent people are prone to mental disorders, have anxiety-induced mental performance issues, or are romantically less desirable.
While they are not necessarily true for all intelligent people, there is a shred of truth in them. Some people can even rationalize other people’s intelligence by counter-balancing it with less desirable adult traits. Such as being naive, immature, or a pain-in-the-ass.
These negative words describe a child, but a child is expected to be naive (innocent), immature (yet to develop), or a pain-in-the-ass (a whole lotta work, because mammals; you know?)
Let’s look at 4 childish personality traits now. These tendencies or traits that adults have can make them appear childish to others.
Adult personality traits that make them appear childish
1. Impulsivity: High intelligence is closely associated with Impulsive behavior which appears childish to some.
Children tend to be impulsive and go after things they desire. If you see this in adults, you might consider the adult to be childish. A part of impulsivity called “Delay discounting” is associated with intelligence. Low scores on Delay discounting means you prefer immediate rewards and devalue future rewards, even if future rewards are greater. Something like – if you have the chance to get 100 dollars today or wait for a month and get 200 dollars, you’d choose 100 dollars. For adults, high intelligence is associated with 2 important aspects of impulsivity – low scores on delay discounting and high scores on non-planning (improvising, winging it, going unprepared to shop, etc.) Why would this be the case? Let’s go back to what intelligence means – a general ability to adapt and solve problems. Faith in adaptability and problem-solving could permit intelligent people to take such risks without too many negative consequences. An impulsive purchase can be balanced by eliminating the need to purchase something else or spending effort (not money) to solve another problem.
2. Emotional expression: An intelligent person appears childish when emotional expressions are bold, free, honest, and unrestricted
Emotional regulation – a subset of emotional intelligence – is how we manage, express, filter, and understand our emotions in acceptable ways. Children are yet to learn these because of fewer life experiences. Emotional intelligence grows with age-related experience, for most people. However, if an adult lacks emotional intelligence – commonly dubbed as emotional maturity – the adult appears childish and immature. Children typically have bold emotional and facial expressions, but adults have them contained, inhibited, or restricted.
When adults demonstrate bold emotions, they may be perceived as child-like. The cliche that intelligent people are emotionally immature may be more false than true because research does show that emotional intelligence is associated with academic achievement and academic achievement is an indication of intelligence.
Adults who end up expressing their desires boldly or reacting emotionally may indicate that they lack emotional regulation or don’t adhere to emotional norms like containing emotions in public gatherings. For example, not “adulting,” freely enjoying or expressing honestly. Adults have norms that restrict some emotional expression but children express them freely.
3. High curiosity and exploration: Well-read and skilled people tend to be curious like children and have a thirst for exploration
Children are curious creatures. That’s how they learn. Curiosity is a way to make more sense of anything; more than what you already know. It’s about closing the knowledge gap between what you know and what you don’t know. Boredom, on the other hand, is the absence of this sense-making process and goes hand-in-hand with boredom.
Curiosity can kill boredom and the lack of it can induce boredom – something is typically seen in children. Curiosity, especially for seemingly insignificant things, can make others feel that the curious person lacks a complete goal-oriented focus. However, curiosity is one of the deepest mechanisms of quality learning. So if not a true genius, a curious person is likely to be a skilled and knowledgeable person. They may ask dozens of basic questions like children do – like the continuous “why?”
4. Dependent on others: Intelligent adults who depend on others for basic activities may appear childish
A typical child is dependent on adults. If another adult is wholly independent and self-reliant, the adult is seen as a strong independent adult. However, a highly dependent or needy person, even if intelligent, is seen as a childish person.
Most theories agree that a parent-child attachment affects adult attachment patterns – how we depend on others, how dependable others are, how secure you feel, etc.
Any form of an insecure attachment pattern could suggest that the person is perceived as not mature (whether or not it is true). And the jump from not mature to childlike is not a big one if other hints of childishness like strong emotional expressions exist.
Biases fuel the childish-immature-intelligent person stereotype
Ultimately, if an adult has any or all of the 4 traits and is intelligent, we tend to think that intelligent people are childish. Some of those traits like curiosity and impulsivity are more closely related to intelligence and childishness than other traits like emotional expression and dependence.
We then go through a confirmation bias when we see examples of such people and remember them better because they fit our preconceived notions. Another thinking error that biases our memory is the survivorship bias – For a few intelligent but childish people who stand out, there could be a hundred more who appear ordinary and don’t stand out.
That could draw our attention to the few which do stand out and bias our memory toward them – fueling a stereotype and assuming that childish-intelligent people are overrepresented.
We found 9 Psychological Tricks we must follow to become that kind of person.
There are people who radiate such inexplicable magnetism that absolutely everyone reaches to them. They wish to be like them, win their friendship or approval. And the most curious thing is that it does not depend on the appearance of these people.
Amazing Psychology And Mind Tricks
1. Individual Image
You need a unique image. Even more, a totally exclusive detail. After all, your own original image is what makes strangers remember you. And we are not talking about beauty.
It sounds strange, but the singularity can be expressed even in ugliness and vulnerability. Any of your signature features – whether it’s a pace, gesture, facial expression, intonation, style of communication, or an item of clothing can make you memorable.
Here are some examples of details of famous people they are associated with:
Charlie Chaplin – mustache, suit, cane
Tilda Swinton – asexuality, no makeup
Winston Churchill – Fat Cigars
Joseph Stalin – mustache, pipe, accent
Adolf Hitler – original moustache shape, intonation
Dita Von Teese – The Image of the 1940s, Red Lipstick
Marilyn Monroe – hair color, mole
Salvador Dali – mustache, facial expressions
2. You Need A Big Dream
In order for people to approach and appreciate you as a truly unique personality, you must have a reason to exist. Ambitions, goals, a desire to change something in this world. Fight for something. Because a person without a dream is a book without an idea. Why would you read it?
3. Be Confident
To be charismatic, you must have confidence. Courageously make decisions, be able to rely only on yourself, don’t expect outside help, and explain your ideas to others in a way they understand.
People around you can feel your confidence not only in behavior but also in speech. It’s better to avoid phrases like “I think, I hope, I guess, I expect, maybe, probably.”
4. Forget About Complaints
Could you admire and want to be like a person who always complains? Of course not. Charismatic people have a positive mindset. Avoid criticism, complaints, and negative issues. Even if not everything is good in your life, start a conversation that brings you pleasure and does the same to your listeners.
5. Use Body Gestures
Your behavior must demonstrate your confidence: do not bend over, do not tempt with objects or parts of your body, try to smile more frequently, look the person in the eye, and avoid closed postures.
In general, when you appear in public, act and feel like a celebrity on the red carpet.
6. Become A Great Storyteller
Many people believe that the ability to make almost all stories interesting is a talent.
But this is not always the case. Mainly, it is a skill that can be learned. Just speak with confidence. Use humor, especially self-irony: the ability to laugh at yourself. Don’t forget body language, be emotional and positive. Don’t worry if not all your stories and jokes “work”.
Tell your personal stories. After hearing something really interesting, people will share it with others.
7. Don’t Look Away
When you talk to someone, always look them in the eye. Sometimes a penetrating glance can say more than a thousand words. Eye contact shows that you are listening to your caller and that you understand and accept them as a person.
Most importantly, when you’re talking to someone at an event, don’t be distracted by strange things. Do not look at your cell phone or the crowd as it may seem like you are looking for a more “proper” interlocutor.
8. Learn To Listen To Others
There is no need to consider yourself the most important person in the world. A genuine interest in other people’s lives can make people love you more because listening to people is a true art. If you listen carefully to the other person and show interest in their conversation, you will begin to feel necessary and even special.
Obviously, you cannot remember everything your interlocutor said to you, but remembering the name is a big problem. Here is an interesting trick. When a person introduces himself, repeat the name: “Mike, nice to meet you.” And if you want people to remember you, use the same trick with your name: “Hi, I’m Susan. Susan Jones.”
The mirror effect, or simply mirroring, is an easy way to create someone like you by repeating their facial expressions, intonations, and gestures. It always works because the method is based on the nature of human narcissism: an interlocutor, unconsciously, begins to feel that you are synchronized with them.
You can also use this trick to adopt other people’s unique characteristics. For example, some famous people who seem charismatic to you. See how they are presented, as this can help you feel more secure. You can find a detailed analysis of such examples on the video channel “Charisma on Command”.
মানুষ সামাজিক জীব। সমাজের বিভিন্ন পরিস্থিতিতে আমরা বিভিন্ন ধরনের আচরণ করে থাকি। কিন্তু কেন আমরা একই পরিস্থিতিতে সবাই এক ধরনের আচরণ করিনা, এর কারণ হচ্ছে আমাদের প্রত্যেকের ব্যক্তিত্বই আলাদা।
বৈশিষ্ট্য ও পরিবেশগত উপাদান:
ব্যক্তির নিজস্ব বৈশিষ্ট্য ও পরিবেশগত উপাদানের সমন্বয়েই এর গঠন হচ্ছে । ব্যক্তিত্বের গঠন ও বিকাশ কিভাবে হয় তা নিয়ে বিভিন্ন সময়ে বিভিন্ন তত্থ্য দেয়া হয়েছে। এই তথ্য গুলো অনেক কারণে সমালোচিত হলেও মনোবিজ্ঞানী, শিক্ষাবিদ, সমাজবিদ শিক্ষকদের কাছে এগুলোর মুল্য অপরিসীম শিশুদের আচরণের অন্তর্নিহিত কারণ খুঁজতে গেলে এই তথ্য গুলো আমাদের দিকনির্দেশনা দেয়।
লিঙ্গভেদ:
লিঙ্গভেদে ব্যক্তিত্বের পার্থক্য হয় কি না তা নির্ণয় করার লক্ষ্যে নানা গবেষণা হয়েছে। কিছু সমালোচনা সত্তে¡ও প্রমাণিত হয়েছে যে ছেলে ও মেয়েদের মধ্যে ব্যক্তিত্বের, সংলক্ষণগুলো ভিন্ন ভিন্ন মাত্রায় উপস্থিত থাকে। লিঙ্গভেদে ব্যক্তিত্ব ভিন্ন হবার কারণে, বুদ্ধিবৃত্তীয় কৃতিত্বের ক্ষেত্রে ভিন্নতা দেখা যায়।
ব্যক্তিত্ব জানার জন্য প্রশ্ন:
শুধু ব্যক্তিত্ব জানার জন্য কাউকে কোনো প্রশ্ন করা উচিত নয় এবং এমনটা করলে তেমন লাভ হবে বলেও মনে হয় না। কারণ কারও বাহ্যিক প্রতিক্রিয়া দেখেই তার মানসিকতা নিখুঁতভাবে সনাক্ত করা সম্ভব নয়৷ পৃথিবীতে এমন মানুষও আছে যারা বেশ ভালোভাবেই ভালো মানুষের মত প্রশ্নের উত্তর দিতে পারে এবং ভালো মানুষের বেশ ধরতে পারে৷
ব্যক্তিত্ব বিষয়টা খুব ঝামেলার। ব্যক্তিত্বের সর্বজনগ্রাহ্য কোন সঙা নেই। “ব্যক্তিত্ব বলতে আপনি কি বোঝেন” এই প্রশ্ন করা হলে আপনি কিছুটা হলেও বিভ্রান্ত হবেন, কারণ আপনি স্পষ্ট কোন ধারণা দিতে পারবেন না।
ব্যক্তিত্ব কি?
যদিও ব্যক্তিত্ব বিষয়টি সঙায়ন প্রায় অসম্ভব তবুও সহজ সরল ভাষায় বলা যায় “যে এক বা একাধিক গুন আপনাকে একজন ব্যক্তি হিসেবে অন্য একজন ব্যক্তি থেকে আলাদা করে সেটাই আপনার ব্যক্তিত্ব!”
তবুও একজন মানুষের ব্যক্তিত্ব সম্পকে জানতে পারবেন প্রশ্ন করে নয় বরং প্রশ্নের উত্তর শুনে।
একজন ব্যক্তিত্ববান মানুষের সকল প্রশ্নের উত্তরই হবে মার্জিত। তাঁর পক্ষে অথবা বিপক্ষে কোন উত্তরই অসৌজন্যমূলক হবে না। যে প্রশ্নের উত্তর তিনি জানেন না সেক্ষেত্রেও আপনি তার কাছ থেকে উস্কানীমূলক আচরণ পাবেন না।
ব্যক্তিত্বের মূল উৎস হচ্ছে মানসিকতা। মনোবিজ্ঞানে যে উপাদন দিয়ে ব্যক্তিকে বোঝানো হয়েছে তার পিছনে সংশ্লিষ্টতা রয়েছে বুদ্ধি এবং আবেগের যার মাধ্যমে গড়ে ওঠে মানসিকতা। মানসিকতা আবার নিয়ন্ত্রিত হয় মন দ্বারা, যেখানে জ্ঞানের ভূমিকা আছে।
জ্ঞান যেমন মনের প্রধান উপাদান, জ্ঞান এখানেও তেমনি ব্যক্তিত্বের মূল উপাদান হিসেবে ভূমিকা পালন করে। ব্যক্তিত্বের দ্বিতীয় প্রধান উপাদান হচ্ছে অনুভূতি। যাদের অনুভূতি কম তারাই সাধারণতঃ ব্যক্তিত্বহীন হতে পারে।
জ্ঞানীরা অনুভূতিসম্পন্ন বলেই তাদের মান সম্মানবোধ থাকে প্রখর। এবং মান সম্মান সম্পর্কে সচেতন বলেই ব্যক্তিত্বকে ছোট করতে পারে এমন কাজ থেকে তারা বিরত থাকেন। জ্ঞানী লোক ব্যক্তিত্বহীন হতে পারে না কিন্তু ব্যক্তিহীন লোক পশু হতে পারে।
আসলে, ব্যক্তিত্ব কোন ব্যক্তির সংস্কৃতি। এটার মাধ্যমে তাঁর জীবনের সকল কিছুই প্রকাশ পায়। তার পোষাক থেকে রুচি পর্যন্ত সবকিছু। ওজন থেকে জ্ঞানের বহর।
সুতরাং আপনি ব্যক্তিত্ব জানার জন্য যে প্রশ্নই করুননা কেন তাঁর উত্তরই বলে দিবে তিনি কতটুকু ব্যক্তিত্বের অধীকারী।
যাহোক, এবার আসা যাক আপনার ব্যক্তিত্ব পরিমাপের বিষয়ে। নিচে একটি ওয়েব লিংক দিচ্ছি, এখানে আপনি মোট ৪৫ টি প্রশ্ন পাবেন। প্রশ্ন গুলো “আপনি আপনার সম্পর্কে কি ভাবেন” তা নিয়ে।
আপনি যদি মনে করেন বিষয়টি আপনার সাথে শতভাগ মানানসই তবে 5 রেটিং করবেন। যত কমবে তত রেটিং কমাতে থাকবেন। একদমই যদি আপনার চরিত্র বা ভাবনার সাথে না যায় তবে 1 রেটিং করুন।
<<< WHO HAVE DIFFICULTY SOCIALIZING Lacking in Social Skills Reasons—
Processing and problem solving: Social Interaction aren’t all problem-solving. High IQs tend to treat social interactions as a problem that needs to be solved when it’s just an interaction.
I talk about habitualness, and people with higher IQs tend to love solving problems.
Habitually they’ll engage socially this way also, they habitually engage in socializing as a problem-solving event.
Small talk is what high IQs despise and struggle with when it’s just a narration of someone’s life to that point of exchanging thru talk and leave it as is and tell it as is.
Depression:
High IQs tend to be more depressed especially in the profoundly gifted. This could be rooted in many reasons, but none less exist within themselves.
Depression isn’t socially healthy and tends to bring others social happiness levels down.
High IQs are also depressed as they were more aware of the haunting truths of reality. They’re more aware of an individuals existence may be completely meaningless and views other social worth and importance extremely low.
For myself to be in depression is just not being able to put the throttle down intellectually, and at times I have to let others win.
In PG you’ll find more people depressed and sometimes suicidal because of the extreme awareness of the negatives. Also, Higher IQ people tend to be very isolated.
Perfectionism:
Perfectionism in shape is related to one’s self-worth. Some people with high IQs tend to attach their achievements to their self-worth. 160IQ is an achievement attached to one’s self-worth.
This is an unhealthy level of perfectionism, but people with High IQs will use this as a measurement of their success. Things like reading at the age of 2, completing college at 13 years old, etc.. etc. This is unhealthy perfectionism.
My greatest achievement in life was a video game, being no.1. I actually just throw the no.1 in there, it’s not of great importance. Why was it my greatest achievement? I never loved something so much that I wanted to do the best to my abilities My other achievements.
I don’t consider it of great importance since my level of love towards those achievements were never that high. Not enough for me to tunnel vision and dismiss a lot of factors of my life. Yes, I was a loser, but one in love!
Dealing with perfectionism, people with high IQs try to be perfect. I’ll admit I have a high IQ and I’m extremely imperfect. My boss’s boss saw my junk! I was in a meeting yelling at my boss.
I wore pants with a huge rip on the crotch region. I wasn’t aware the pants were ripped, I was just aware they were comfortable. She points out my poor choice of clothing for the meeting and I looked down and realized she saw it all. I also went out to eat pizza before and was too lazy to put on underwear.
The kids saw my junk. Didn’t know my pants were ripped till the parents were concerned. This is of course just a story of my lack of awareness and not something you learn to do.
Thou people might assume Profoundly Gifted people have a more expansive vocabulary or well-rounded lexicons. The truth is counter-intuitive to what most would believe. People with higher IQs tend to use layman’s terms.
A lot of people with very High IQs talk very normally, and people who have a larger vocabulary or use “big words” are probably not the smartest people in the room.
