Success doesn’t require speed. It requests slowness.

by | May 9, 2021 | Knowledge

So many people today are in a rush to become successful.

They want to earn 7-figures in 12 months even though they have no marketable skills, no network, and no business acumen.

They want to build their dream body in 12 weeks even though they haven’t set foot in a gym in years and don’t really understand the current state of their physical body.

They want to magically find the man/woman of their dreams even though they themselves are completely undateable and have 0 social skills.

And I get it…

Human beings are inherently impatient.

But the great irony of success (in any area of life) is that an approach that is overly focused on speed will actually force you to go slower.

Trying to achieve too many things too quickly or changing too many aspects of yourself and your personality in too short of a time span will detriment your results.

Don’t believe me?

Then let’s take a look at two (semi) hypothetical examples of Success.

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Example #1: Speedy Sam

Sam is just like everyone else.

He’s earning $50,000/year in a job that he doesn’t really like.

He isn’t fat, but he also isn’t in great shape and probably has 15–20 lbs. that he could lose.

He’s dating Sally from Accounting but their relationship is “meh” and he doesn’t feel the spark or connection that he’d really like.

After attending a personal growth conference (that he paid for on credit) he comes home and he’s on FIRE!

He’s ready to change his life and he’s ready to change it now.

So he makes a plan and decides to take action.

He decides that starting tomorrow, he’s going to:

  • Exercise 5 days a week for an hour a day
  • Eat only whole foods
  • Quit smoking cigarettes and marijuana
  • Work for 5 hours on his side hustle
  • Take Sally on a weekly date night and have sex every day (instead of once a week)
  • Meditate every day
  • Journal for 30 minutes a day
  • Read 60 minutes of personal growth literature
  • Wake up at 5 a.m. (3 hours before he normally wakes up)

He sets lofty goals for himself and decides that he wants to build multiple 6-figure businesses in 6 months, lose 15 lbs. of fat and gain 20 lbs. of muscle, become “Zen” like a monk, and feel abundant joy on a daily basis.

He wakes up the next day before his alarm goes off and for the following 24 hours, everything is perfect.

He does everything he’s supposed to do and goes to bed smiling and happy with himself.

The next day, he wakes up on time again, this time much more groggy and fuzzy-headed.

He still accomplishes all of his tasks for the day, but he’s beginning to feel more tired and burnt out than he has in a while.

On the third day, he hits the snooze button for “just a few minutes” and oversleeps by 2 hours. He spends the rest of the day beating himself up and feeling like crap for being such a lazy p.o.s. He doesn’t make it to the gym and eats a cookie at the office.

By day #4, he’s tired, drained, and wondering why in the hell he even wanted to change his life in the first place.

After the first week has gone by, he’s sore, grumpy, and stuck in a pit of self-loathing because he’s “Such a loser” for not being able to stick to his goals.

He quickly reverts back to his old patterns of behavior for a few months before casually picking up a copy of Awaken the Giant Within, getting a huge dump of motivation and trying to do it all over again.

He goes on like this for YEARS!

Setting big goals, getting really intense, burning out quickly, and ultimately accomplishing nothing.

After more than a decade of this behavior, he’s no closer to a life of joy and freedom than when he first started.

In fact, he’s worse off than before because now he feels worse about himself, and his finances, health, and marriage have all deteriorated.

Speedy Sam has royally screwed himself over and paved the path to failure with his own good intentions.

Now let’s consider the inverse of this approach with Slow Steve.

Example #2: Slow Steve

Steve is very similar to Sam.

He’s slightly overweight, working a middle management job earning $50,000 a year, and stuck in a relationship that isn’t all that inspiring.

Steve knows his life isn’t working and he decides to do something about it.

But after reading The Compound Effect and The Slight Edge, he realizes that the key to success is to slowly but surely take SMALL actions every day towards his goals.

He sits down and looks at his life and realizes that two things are holding him back more than anything else.

  1. His health – his energy levels suck and he’s always tired and feels incapable of working on a side hustle or going to the gym
  2. His finances – He’s buried in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, and stuck in a rut of being unable to earn any more.

Steve knows that his life isn’t going to change overnight and so he creates a simple 12-month plan for himself to get unstuck.

But here’s the thing… His plan isn’t all that crazy or audacious.

In fact, it seems too simple for most people.

For the first month, Steve only makes three small commitments.

  1. He’s going to walk for 30 minutes three times a week
  2. He’s going to spend 45 minutes a day researching side hustles and new ways of earning extra money
  3. He’s going to spend only 10% less on going out than he has been in previous months (a total savings of about $70)

At first, it doesn’t look like he’s making any progress. He loses only 2 lbs. during the first month, saves $70 in his War Chest, and narrows down his side hustle to 3 potential options.

Then, the next month, he adds on 3 new shifts.

  1. He commits to going to the gym once a week and doing a full-body workout
  2. He commits to calling freelancers/small business owners in the 3 potential side hustles and asking them questions about what they do and how they do it.
  3. He’s going to go on 2 dates with his girlfriend and pay for them by spending less money on clothes.

Again, there aren’t many noticeable changes.

He loses a few more pounds of fat, boosts his energy levels by only 10%, and still isn’t earning any more money.

Slowly, but surely, he continues this trend over the following 12 months, and by the time the year is over, he’s successful:

  • Training at the gym 4 days a week and eating an 80% whole foods diet
  • Lost all of his excess body fat and gained 5 lbs. of muscle
  • Started earning an extra $1,000 a month doing freelance writing for 60 minutes on the weekdays
  • Improved his relationship and started consistently dating his (now) fiancee.

His life hasn’t changed all that much in 12 months.

He’s earning a little bit more money, he’s in better shape, his energy levels are higher, and his relationship is more connected.

But he isn’t a millionaire or fitness model and he doesn’t have some magical relationship where he screws like a rabbit every day and never fights with his girl.

But he commits to continuing the process.

Another 12 months go by and another and another.

By the time that 5 years have passed, his life is COMPLETELY unrecognizable from the life he was living before.

He’s a lean, mean, fighting machine and weighs 185 lbs. with 8% body fat. He regularly competes in Jujitsu matches and Spartan Races, and he feels amazing.

He quit his corporate job and is earning $150,000/year as a marketing consultant and he’s in the process of self-publishing his first book.

He’s happily married, feels deeply connected to his wife, and has a stellar sex life.

He put one foot in front of the other and changed everything.

Another 5 years go by and now, Steve is a world-renowned marketer earning more than $3,000,000 a year. He has a budding personal brand, 3 best-selling books, tens of thousands of dollars of passive income, and a career that he loves.

His body is a weapon and he’s in better shape than the guys that are 10 years younger than he is.

His relationship with his wife is a point of power in his life and spending time with her rejuvenates and inspires him (instead of draining him).

In other words… Steve is a badass.

But he didn’t get there overnight.

He did it in small steps that helped him prepare for HUGE leaps (like proposing, quitting his corporate job, and competing in his first physique show).

Steve has changed his life SLOWLY. Success

But ironically… He changed faster than ANY of the other guys trying to rush their way to success.

Success takes time. 

But If you think that success becomes too much slowly then I have something for you.

Five things you can do when success comes too slowly

It seems counter-intuitive to go slowly when you already feel you’re going at a snail’s pace, but taking your time with a careful strategy could actually speed up the process.

If you’re struggling with the amount of time it’s taking to reach your ultimate goal, then here are five things you can do that might help along the way.

1) Remember that slow and steady wins the race

There’s a Chinese proverb that says ‘A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step’. Patience is hard, especially when we’re so used to the pace of modern life. Take your time, tackle each small step one at a time and a series of little victories will follow, which will eventually lead up to the big event.

2) Focus on what’s working

If you keep dwelling on life’s disappointments, they’ll take over and start holding you back. Tune in to the good things: What’s making a positive impact? What feels good to you? What are you making significant progress towards?

Write them down and build on those instead. It’ll give you reasons to carry on and put a new spring in your step. Also, make sure your goals aren’t too big to accomplish in the time available and check to see if you have the right skills to achieve them. Be realistic and don’t waste time on things that don’t work.

3) Make the most of your time

Procrastination is the biggest stealer of time. Of course, we all need to wind down now and again, but avoid getting sucked into Netflix surfing or being consumed by social media for hours on end.

Spend that time more productively by swapping out motivational videos, audios, and coaching books. TED Talks are a great way to inspire action. There’ are plenty of online courses too. Not only will this improve your knowledge, but it will also give you the tools to fast-track your success.

4) Get fresh

Einstein said that “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”. So one of the reasons you’re not seeing results might be because you’re repeating the same old patterns.

If this is you, then it’s time to shake things up a bit. Take a fresh perspective on things or modify existing processes. Get some feedback so you know if they’re working or not. Continually renewing your vision keeps the momentum going and prevents you from getting stuck in a rut.

5) Look after yourself

If you’re serious about turning your dreams into reality then persistence is key. But watch out, don’t get so wrapped up in making your vision work that you neglect the most important aspect – you!

Stress affects your health: physical, mental, and emotional. And if you slow down when everything around you slows down too. When you feel you’re struggling, reboot and recharge. Boost your energy by going for a run, or a walk on the beach. Meditation is proven to de-stress, and help you think and work more effectively.

Take baby steps to the success you desire

Despite what we’re led to believe, attaining your ideal life doesn’t happen overnight. Yes, it will feel challenging, uncomfortable, and unbelievably slow at times. But understand that every tiny step you take along the way is something to be acknowledged and experienced in order to make you stronger and bolder. Keep going and good luck!

So chill out, trust the process, put one foot in front of the other, and eventually… You’ll get the Success that you want.

 

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Here is something that people need to understand?

by | May 9, 2021 | Psychology

As the human race,

We understand many things. From simple everyday things, or to special talents that we spend time understanding. Sadly, some other simple things, many people don’t understand. So, I made this list to basically just say “You humans need to understand this stuff before we get dumber! “

  1. Don’t use a person to forget another.
  2. “I explained my hurt and still got hurt. So I learned to stop talking.”
  3. A conversation about how you feel is not supposed to end in an argument.
  4. We matured off pain, not age.
  5. Sometimes you think that you want to disappear but all you really want is to be found.
  6. If your absence doesn’t affect them, your presence never mattered. Remember that.
  7. The worst pain is getting played by a person you lowered your standards for. So choose a high-quality partner from the very beginning – tap here to find them.
  8. Key to happiness: ignore the people who think they know more about you than you do.
  9. You have to learn how to love from a distance. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll be stuck chasing people who won’t love you either.
  10. Life happens for you, not for you. Learn through every lesson.
  11. If something costs $1000, and it’s on sale for $750, and then you decide to buy it, you didn’t save $250. You spent $750.
  12. People never judge what anyone did to provoke you, but then they judge when you react.
  13. Please don’t lose the best years of life being loyal to a toxic person. Stay with the right one that deserves your love.
  14. “I can’t believe I allowed myself to be disrespected so many times just because I care about other people’s feelings more than mine.”
  15. Toxic people love playing the victim.
  16. “I wanted to feel loved without feeling like I was begging for it.”
  17. They didn’t leave you, I moved them out of your way. – The Universe

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Emotions Fact. How to get emotional balance and endless vitality?

by | May 3, 2021 | Psychology

The great people of the world have become great by balancing their emotions.

Emotions should never be wasted but should be kept within themselves. I will rejoice in anything, but I must make sure that my emotions do not ruin my work.

Once in a cricket match in Delhi, Sachin Tendulkar scored a double century. Sachin Tendulkar, a journalist of the Times of India, was asked that day, “Sir, you have scored a double century today. How are you enjoying this moment?” And tomorrow will surely go out of all routines and give time to the family? Take a break from the game? In answer to this question he said:

“I’m standing at the moment and thinking about how to play better in the next. And tomorrow, at my scheduled time, at five in the morning, I’ll be back to practice in the nets. In my twenty-four years of cricket, this rule has never been an exception.”

Just think, how much these famous people have to learn how to use emotions!

Before we do any work, we get so excited that we don’t get the success that the work stops.

Emotions keep us vibrating in life. Emotion makes us interested in work, gives us hope, courage, strength. It helps us to move forward.

In fact, we do not see electricity. But we can perceive the power of electricity, be aware of the power of electricity, just as we do not see emotion. But no work can be done without emotion. Emotion is the motivation for us to work. But when emotion is excessive, all work is futile.

So you have to focus on work all the time, you don’t have to think for success if you do daily work every day. I mean, have you done what you want in life?

This is not what we do, this calculation does not match, those who match succeed.

We have infinite power inside our minds. All we need to do is wake him up. Ninety percent of our energy remains dormant because we don’t try to wake him up.

We are all unique, unique, and unique entities. We can never be like anyone else. But like me, I am able to awaken my inner strength. I have to be heartfelt for him. There must be a bar in the middle of the crowd. The expectation of getting something from others should be reduced. Be self-reliant.

If you want to be full of endless life force, you have a small child inside you. He will give you endless joy. Going back to that small-time, then this has happened in the society, Oak has spoken badly to me, why did he look at me like that, he would not sit and think about so many things, then he would just eat and play.

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Now stay calm, eat for a while, and work, work, and work.

Lazy people cannot enjoy endless happiness. Who spoils their feelings of laziness. Now many may say, after growing up, the child will come to mind?

Yes, it doesn’t come, because it doesn’t come, joy, laughter, fun is getting lost in the world day by day. Now when I see the faces of most people, I feel sad. The faces are like a thousand thoughts. As if carrying all the responsibilities of the world alone.

Even if he was such a person, it would have been like this situation is consuming everyone.

You are the bar in the middle of this hero.

Jonathan Swift, an author of Gulliver’s Travels, says: “Food, peace, and joy are the three best doctors in the world.”

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So if you want to be good:

  1. We have to be gentle. We have to be soft-spoken, we have to praise others, we have to give up the attitude of finding fault with others.
  2. You have to spend some time for spiritual thinking, you have to read scriptures.
  3. We have to give up the tendency to be afraid. In this beautiful world, everyone has to love, remember, everyone loves me too.
  4. Pleasurable thoughts must be engrossed in pleasurable work. Life will automatically become full of joy.
  5. You have to meditate to increase your mental capacity. And You have to take care of your body. Also, You have to eat nutritious food.
  6. Spend a lot of time with nature. Look at the tree, as a rule, every day.
  7. Read good books to boost confidence.
  8. Avoid frustrating people as much as possible. Stay in touch with the person who gets the inspiration.

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Some Psychology Tricks Of Daily Life That Are 100 Effective

by | May 3, 2021 | Psychology

Today I will tell you about 10 psychology that will come in handy in the course of your life. You will benefit a lot if you follow or apply in your personal and career.

01. Ask someone for a job without asking.

Suppose you ask someone, can you do this job for me?

No, never ask questions like this. Please request that you do this job for me. You will see that he will not be able to do it for you anymore. So try this psychology of getting someone to do something with you.

02. Make eye contact with the ignorer.

When you talk to someone continuously and he does not pay attention to your words, that is, tries to ignore you. Then stop talking for a while. But keep your eyes on him. Do not lower your eyes. You will see that he will feel hesitant and will pay attention to your words again.

03. Keep a water bottle with you while giving the speech.

There are many people who can’t speak or give speeches in front of it. The throat gets dry, forget the words. They can keep a water bottle with them. If you have a dry throat, you can drink water as well as your speech and mind during this break. As a result of drinking water, the mood will be refreshed, nerves will be relaxed, and your speech will be better. So of course those who feel nervous while giving a speech can follow this psychology.

04. Use D motivation as motivation.

Suppose you ask someone to do something for you or someone else does something for him, then tell him “you can’t do this job”. “You can’t do this job, leave it”. Then you will see that the job is good and beautiful in his mind. He will be interested in doing it, even if he insists on it, he will want to show you the work. And he will not want to explain that he has succeeded, you were wrong.

05. Express interest in the person in front with body posture.

When you talk to someone, shake your head lightly and shake your hand. The person in front of you will think you are interested in talking to them or you feel good talking to them. You will see that the person you talk to will become very friendly and Will shares everything with you. This psychology helps to establish a good relationship. Follow these tips to have a good relationship with your loved ones.

06. Tricks to wake up the eyes in the morning.

When you wake up in the morning, get up and sit down to get rid of the feeling of sleep in your eyes. Then raise your hands and say “Yeah” loudly. Many people express their excitement while watching the game. You will see that the feeling of sleep will go away immediately. Try it one day.

07. Get your work done with people who are focused on other things.

Suppose someone is doing something with a lot of attention, like talking to someone on the phone with a lot of attention. Then you can hand over anything to him. He can’t remember when you gave it. On the contrary, you can take anything he has in his hand. He can’t even remember when he gave it.

08. When someone is looking at you, you will look at their shoes.

When someone on the street or on the bus is looking at you with one glance, you will also be looking at his shoes with one glance. Do not move your eyes. You will see the hesitation in him, shame will work in him. Girls can follow these tricks. Instead of looking at the person who is staring, look at his shoes.

09. Eliminate fatigue through the power of thought.

If you haven’t had a good night’s sleep the night before and you’re very tired, then think to yourself that you’ve had a good night’s sleep and you’re not tired at all. Strange as it may sound, it’s 100{65d74b771b6ceff07eaefc19ffed56e0ab6ea89ffc0f0b38516c35f1ac414386} effective. The book reveals that if you think you have taken a very good rest and there is no fatigue in you, then your brain works very well, which is 100{65d74b771b6ceff07eaefc19ffed56e0ab6ea89ffc0f0b38516c35f1ac414386} proven.

 10. What is the right time to meet a loved one?

People always remember the beginning of the day and the end of the day. Sometimes they don’t remember what happens in the middle of the day. So always try to meet someone or have an urgent meeting, job interview in the morning or afternoon. People will remember you all the time.

I hope you like today’s psychology tips. If you like it, you must try the tips in your life.

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Some of most interesting facts about human behaviour?

by | May 1, 2021 | Psychology

Here are few interesting facts that’ll blow your mind.:

Aren’t we all curious to know about human behaviour? How people act or react, learning everything about human behaviour is interesting and appealing. Not only it makes you read people better but also helps you understand yourself better.

Human beings are simply amazing creatures. Every action and every little doing tells us how unique we are. There are things about humans behaviour that still manages to amaze the most famous of psychologists and stun them.
There’s such a mystery about us – about the different organs, about the way we think, the way we behave, etc. The most surprising of the human organs is the brain. It is so amazingly complex and so deep that no human has understood its true power to date.

It is said that the average human only uses 10 per cent of his/her brain capacity in their lifetime. Imagine what will happen if complete power is used! 

But then, it is not just the human brain and humans behaviour. It is every little thing that is simply amazing. Like did you know your nose can distinguish and remember up to 50,000 different types of smell! And that you have taste buds even on your anus.
Eww. Gross right? But then, that’s just how we are. Also, there are certain actions we perform that give people a hint of our behaviour. They say eyes are the mirror to your soul and well, while we don’t really know the truth of that statement, your eyes often reflect your emotions and help people understand your thoughts.

Apart from having behaviours, humans also have a whole lot of wants, needs, fears, and phobias. And what’s more, they have invented words to describe their feelings! Like did you know that that fear of number 13 is known as triskaidekaphobia? Yeah. Try pronouncing that in one go! Or that the smell of wet earth is called petrichor? Nopes, we kid you not. Take a look at some more amazing and mind-blowing facts about humans and human behaviour! You’ll never look at yourself the same way again.

the interesting fact is When we put some milk in coffee, we at first observe an increase of both complexity and entropy (which is a measure of disorder). At a certain moment in time, maximal complexity has been reached and starts lowering again, while entropy steadily keeps on increasing;

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Some interesting facts are:

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1. People who truly love can no longer be friends

2. Girls don’t like being stared at unless they are already staring at you

3. Kissing releases oxytocin in the brain, a hormone that can strengthen the emotional bond between two people.

4. Happiness, anger, sadness, fear, disgust, and surprise are the six emotions commonly expressed by people.

5. Women are more likely to feel pain than men, and at the same time, women are more tolerant of pain than men.

6. Your brain will treat rejection as physical pain.

7. The person who gives the best advice is often the person who has the most problems.

8. Research shows that laziness is only a part of young people’s life habits, and does not represent bad life habits.

9. When introverts are alone, they are often energetic. When they are alone, shy people often want to contact others, but they cannot bear the anxiety brought about by social interaction.

10. Trust is only once, and if you miss it, there will be no more.

11. Psychological research shows that it is difficult to convince oneself not to care.

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Some brain hacks that a Neuroscientist or a Psychologist knows.

by | Apr 30, 2021 | Psychology

We often read about so-called “brain hacks” –  help, advice, and guidance aimed at improving the brain. But how can we know which tips really work? I spoke with leading neuroscientists and asked them to share their favorite brain hacks that they implement in their daily lives.

1. To remind yourself to do something: Place the object somewhere unusual. Have you heard about a brain hack of putting a knot in a handkerchief for remembering something?

You can use the same method; put something in an unusual place for reminding yourself that there is something you need to take care of.

It doesn’t matter whether the object is something relevant or not, because the fact that the thing isn’t in its usual, normal location will be enough to remind you what needs to be done.

2. When you find yourself getting stuck on a problem: Go and do something else instead. Let your mind wander instead of allowing it to fall asleep or merely daydream.

For example, you can try taking a walk; it’ll fuel your mind with the energy it needs, making it alert, which will help you in coming up with a few solutions for the issue at hand.

3. To remember difficult lists: Use the ‘Memory Palace’ technique. The ‘Memory Palace’ is an ancient Roman and Greek technique used to memorize difficult things, such as lists of names by linking or mapping them onto memorable imagery.

We are naturally good at remembering pictures or images but not lists of numbers. And that’s exactly why the Memory Palace technique works; it takes advantage of that innate type of memory which we are good at, using it to form associations.

For example, try to come up with a story about the thing which you are trying to remember or make it a song that maybe rhymes.

4.To efficiently learn something new: Use your motor system. While you are learning something, try putting it in as many neural function modalities as possible.

For instance, when you are trying to learn new material or information, write the notes down. Even if you won’t read them again, the fact that you activated your motor system by writing those notes down will help you to remember the information in the future.

Our motor system has a powerful interaction with sensory stations in our brain, which are essentially more cognitive stations. So when you engage those circuits, you fortify memories onto parts of your brain.

5. If you don’t have a strong sense of time: Offload the information to a planner. Keeping a planner will allow you to offload the knowledge of the timing of all things you have to do throughout the day.

6. The brain optimization hack: Give your highest-performing time to your most demanding task(s).

Evidence indicates that when the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain which involves rational decision-making, gets depleted in energy, your ability to make logical decisions as well as rationality itself decreases.

To know when your brain is at its optimal performance to make sound decisions instead of deciding things when you are already burned out or exhausted.

7. To improve your cognition: Perform activities that produce precise movements or play sports.

Playing sports which demand producing precise movements towards dynamic targets (ping pong, tennis, etc.) can be one of the best things you can do.

The link between action and cognition is worth noting, so by improving your ability in performing spatial actions, you will be boosting your cognition.

8. To create context: Link your memories together. Usually, it’s difficult to remember bits of information that are out of context. However, when you try to link your memories to one another, you will have a much easier time remembering them.

9. To avoid wasting time: Schedule your time in advance so that the following day you won’t waste hours on deciding what you should do next.

10. Work on developing a growth mindset. A growth mindset is a very useful brain hack; it emphasizes the possibility of growth and changes rather than focusing on ability or capacity.

Even short exposure to it can enhance your capacity for change as well as your motivation and willingness to adapt and learn.

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