by Md Kawsar Munna | May 9, 2021 | Knowledge
Life is full of lessons. Some lessons are learned in an instant--like when you touch a hot stove. Others take time to fully understand--for example, what it truly means to be in love. But regardless of the size of the lesson, there are 30 important ones everyone should know before exiting young adulthood and entering the next phase of their life.
Self-development
1. Your habits can make or break you. Every action is a brick, meaning it's what you do on a daily basis that determines the house you end up with. You are the house you build.
2. You are what you read. If your body is a reflection of what you eat, then your mind is a reflection of what you read and study. Fill it with good stuff--not candy, like social media.
3. You cannot compare your path with anyone else's. We each have our own struggles, and we each have our own triumphs. Your path is your path for a reason. Pay attention to the lessons meant for you and you only.
4. Your inner circle is your "dream team." If you surround yourself with negative people, your dream will die. If you surround yourself with positive and driven people, your dream will thrive. It's on you to build your "dream team" accordingly.
5. Your life is a reflection of how well you know yourself. It always comes back to self-awareness. The more willing you are to address your fears, shortcomings, and points of conflict, the more self-awareness you will have and the happier you will be.
Productivity
1. How you invest your time is a reflection of how you invest your money. The smart and wealthy know the value of their time. They see each minute, hour, day, week, month, and so on as an opportunity to invest wisely in themselves. You must do the same.
2. To be productive, you have to remove distractions. Productivity is not about multitasking. It's actually the opposite. It's about trying to do less so that you can ultimately do more.
3. If you aren't getting done what needs to get done, there is a fear. We avoid the things we don't want to do--or worse, wonder if we can do at all. This is why startup plans and book ideas get pushed to the back burner so often. To get the work done, you have to confront what's holding you back.
4. Efficiency is a process. It doesn't happen the first or second time you do something. This means in order to be productive in the fullest sense, you have to commit to the process of always looking for ways to improve over the long term.
5. Failure to prepare means preparing to fail. You can't expect yourself to move through things quickly and effectively if you haven't set yourself up for success. What you do today impacts where you start tomorrow.
Relationships
1. The most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. Without a positive relationship with yourself, every other relationship in your life will suffer. It always starts with you.
2. Friendships and relationships are collaborations. They are not one-way streets. Healthy relationships make both parties better.
3. Trust is built through actions, not words. You can't pay attention to what people say or promise, only what they ultimately do. The way someone acts will tell you everything you need to know.
4. A real relationship is built on vulnerability. It doesn't matter if it's a friendship, a significant other, or even a business connection, the best exchanges are rooted in some level of vulnerability. At the end of the day, we're all exploring life together. We want to have genuine connections.
5. Every relationship has its ups and downs. Conflicts and disagreements are inevitable. What matters is how each conflict is resolved. And the key is to always maintain a level of respect and benefit of the doubt so that both parties can be heard and mutually understood.
Health lessons
1. Your body is your temple. Treat it well.
2. Too much sugar and you'll crash. Candy diets and processed food binges aren't part of a healthy lifestyle. Your body is a reflection of who you are, your habits, how you treat yourself, everything. Cut out the bad stuff.
3. Lack of sleep is not a trophy. Bragging about only getting three hours of sleep last night is not something to be proud of. What it shows is a severe lack of balance and an unsustainable workflow. Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
4. Physical activity is crucial to personal wellness. No matter how busy you get, or how hectic things are, you always have to make time to take care of your physical body. Exercise is key. If you don't, you'll pay for it later.
5. Coffee is good, but too much coffee is bad. When your entire diet becomes "red-eye" after "red-eye," it's time to address the sleep problem.
Career lessons
1. You don't get anywhere fast trying to cut the line. There are no shortcuts. Throwing someone under the bus on your way up will only come back to bite you. Focus on investing in yourself and your skill sets and let the rest fall into place.
2. Your reputation is everything. Above all, you always want former employers, co-workers, partners, and collaborators to speak highly of you. Upholding your reputation is everything when it comes to building a successful career for yourself.
3. It's not about what you've done, but what you're currently doing. Especially in our new world of digital media and personal branding, people want to know whose attention you are commanding today. What impact you are having today.
4. Humility goes a whole lot further than bravado. It's not about convincing everyone how much you know. It's about showing that you're a team player by being willing to listen, learn, and add value where you can. No one likes a spotlight searcher.
5. Becoming a leader has nothing to do with a formal leadership position. Just because you have a big fancy title does not mean people will listen to you, or even take you seriously. To lead a team effectively starts with holding yourself to the highest standard and leading by example.
1. You aren't aiming for perfection. You're aiming for perfect practice. It's not about tunnel-visioning on the shiny idea of the final product. It's about treating each step of the way with intention. That's how you create something worth presenting to the world in the end.
2. External rewards are fleeting and unfulfilling. They're fun, sure, but they are not the end goal--not by a long shot. What holds far more value, and defines the quality of your life, is how many people's lives you impact for the better. However, you choose to do that is up to you.
3. Believing your own hype is dangerous. No matter what you achieve, or how externally successful you get, you have to always remember the kid that started out on his or her path out of pure curiosity. You should never lose that childlike sense of wonder.
4. You are only as good as the last risk you took. If you have to rely on your last home run (which may have happened a long time ago) to speak for your current talents, you have fallen stagnant. Success over the long term is about constantly pushing yourself to take the next big risk.
5. Somewhere, someone much younger than you is practicing his or her heart out, coming for your spot. Just remember that. Anyone can reach the top of the mountain. The hard part is staying there.
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by Md Kawsar Munna | May 9, 2021 | Knowledge
So many people today are in a rush to become successful.
They want to earn 7-figures in 12 months even though they have no marketable skills, no network, and no business acumen.
They want to build their dream body in 12 weeks even though they haven’t set foot in a gym in years and don’t really understand the current state of their physical body.
They want to magically find the man/woman of their dreams even though they themselves are completely undateable and have 0 social skills.
And I get it…
Human beings are inherently impatient.
But the great irony of success (in any area of life) is that an approach that is overly focused on speed will actually force you to go slower.
Trying to achieve too many things too quickly or changing too many aspects of yourself and your personality in too short of a time span will detriment your results.
Don’t believe me?
Then let’s take a look at two (semi) hypothetical examples of Success.
Example #1: Speedy Sam
Sam is just like everyone else.
He’s earning $50,000/year in a job that he doesn’t really like.
He isn’t fat, but he also isn’t in great shape and probably has 15–20 lbs. that he could lose.
He’s dating Sally from Accounting but their relationship is “meh” and he doesn’t feel the spark or connection that he’d really like.
After attending a personal growth conference (that he paid for on credit) he comes home and he’s on FIRE!
He’s ready to change his life and he’s ready to change it now.
So he makes a plan and decides to take action.
He decides that starting tomorrow, he’s going to:
- Exercise 5 days a week for an hour a day
- Eat only whole foods
- Quit smoking cigarettes and marijuana
- Work for 5 hours on his side hustle
- Take Sally on a weekly date night and have sex every day (instead of once a week)
- Meditate every day
- Journal for 30 minutes a day
- Read 60 minutes of personal growth literature
- Wake up at 5 a.m. (3 hours before he normally wakes up)
He sets lofty goals for himself and decides that he wants to build multiple 6-figure businesses in 6 months, lose 15 lbs. of fat and gain 20 lbs. of muscle, become “Zen” like a monk, and feel abundant joy on a daily basis.
He wakes up the next day before his alarm goes off and for the following 24 hours, everything is perfect.
He does everything he’s supposed to do and goes to bed smiling and happy with himself.
The next day, he wakes up on time again, this time much more groggy and fuzzy-headed.
He still accomplishes all of his tasks for the day, but he’s beginning to feel more tired and burnt out than he has in a while.
On the third day, he hits the snooze button for “just a few minutes” and oversleeps by 2 hours. He spends the rest of the day beating himself up and feeling like crap for being such a lazy p.o.s. He doesn’t make it to the gym and eats a cookie at the office.
By day #4, he’s tired, drained, and wondering why in the hell he even wanted to change his life in the first place.
After the first week has gone by, he’s sore, grumpy, and stuck in a pit of self-loathing because he’s “Such a loser” for not being able to stick to his goals.
He quickly reverts back to his old patterns of behavior for a few months before casually picking up a copy of Awaken the Giant Within, getting a huge dump of motivation and trying to do it all over again.
He goes on like this for YEARS!
Setting big goals, getting really intense, burning out quickly, and ultimately accomplishing nothing.
After more than a decade of this behavior, he’s no closer to a life of joy and freedom than when he first started.
In fact, he’s worse off than before because now he feels worse about himself, and his finances, health, and marriage have all deteriorated.
Speedy Sam has royally screwed himself over and paved the path to failure with his own good intentions.
Now let’s consider the inverse of this approach with Slow Steve.
Example #2: Slow Steve
Steve is very similar to Sam.
He’s slightly overweight, working a middle management job earning $50,000 a year, and stuck in a relationship that isn’t all that inspiring.
Steve knows his life isn’t working and he decides to do something about it.
But after reading The Compound Effect and The Slight Edge, he realizes that the key to success is to slowly but surely take SMALL actions every day towards his goals.
He sits down and looks at his life and realizes that two things are holding him back more than anything else.
- His health - his energy levels suck and he’s always tired and feels incapable of working on a side hustle or going to the gym
- His finances - He’s buried in debt, living paycheck to paycheck, and stuck in a rut of being unable to earn any more.
Steve knows that his life isn’t going to change overnight and so he creates a simple 12-month plan for himself to get unstuck.
But here’s the thing… His plan isn’t all that crazy or audacious.
In fact, it seems too simple for most people.
For the first month, Steve only makes three small commitments.
- He’s going to walk for 30 minutes three times a week
- He’s going to spend 45 minutes a day researching side hustles and new ways of earning extra money
- He’s going to spend only 10% less on going out than he has been in previous months (a total savings of about $70)
At first, it doesn’t look like he’s making any progress. He loses only 2 lbs. during the first month, saves $70 in his War Chest, and narrows down his side hustle to 3 potential options.
Then, the next month, he adds on 3 new shifts.
- He commits to going to the gym once a week and doing a full-body workout
- He commits to calling freelancers/small business owners in the 3 potential side hustles and asking them questions about what they do and how they do it.
- He’s going to go on 2 dates with his girlfriend and pay for them by spending less money on clothes.
Again, there aren’t many noticeable changes.
He loses a few more pounds of fat, boosts his energy levels by only 10%, and still isn’t earning any more money.
Slowly, but surely, he continues this trend over the following 12 months, and by the time the year is over, he’s successful:
- Training at the gym 4 days a week and eating an 80% whole foods diet
- Lost all of his excess body fat and gained 5 lbs. of muscle
- Started earning an extra $1,000 a month doing freelance writing for 60 minutes on the weekdays
- Improved his relationship and started consistently dating his (now) fiancee.
His life hasn’t changed all that much in 12 months.
He’s earning a little bit more money, he’s in better shape, his energy levels are higher, and his relationship is more connected.
But he isn’t a millionaire or fitness model and he doesn’t have some magical relationship where he screws like a rabbit every day and never fights with his girl.
But he commits to continuing the process.
Another 12 months go by and another and another.
By the time that 5 years have passed, his life is COMPLETELY unrecognizable from the life he was living before.
He’s a lean, mean, fighting machine and weighs 185 lbs. with 8% body fat. He regularly competes in Jujitsu matches and Spartan Races, and he feels amazing.
He quit his corporate job and is earning $150,000/year as a marketing consultant and he’s in the process of self-publishing his first book.
He’s happily married, feels deeply connected to his wife, and has a stellar sex life.
He put one foot in front of the other and changed everything.
Another 5 years go by and now, Steve is a world-renowned marketer earning more than $3,000,000 a year. He has a budding personal brand, 3 best-selling books, tens of thousands of dollars of passive income, and a career that he loves.
His body is a weapon and he’s in better shape than the guys that are 10 years younger than he is.
His relationship with his wife is a point of power in his life and spending time with her rejuvenates and inspires him (instead of draining him).
In other words… Steve is a badass.
But he didn’t get there overnight.
He did it in small steps that helped him prepare for HUGE leaps (like proposing, quitting his corporate job, and competing in his first physique show).
Steve has changed his life SLOWLY. Success
But ironically… He changed faster than ANY of the other guys trying to rush their way to success.
Success takes time.
But If you think that success becomes too much slowly then I have something for you.
Five things you can do when success comes too slowly
It seems counter-intuitive to go slowly when you already feel you’re going at a snail’s pace, but taking your time with a careful strategy could actually speed up the process.
If you’re struggling with the amount of time it’s taking to reach your ultimate goal, then here are five things you can do that might help along the way.
1) Remember that slow and steady wins the race
There’s a Chinese proverb that says ‘A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step’. Patience is hard, especially when we’re so used to the pace of modern life. Take your time, tackle each small step one at a time and a series of little victories will follow, which will eventually lead up to the big event.
2) Focus on what’s working
If you keep dwelling on life’s disappointments, they’ll take over and start holding you back. Tune in to the good things: What’s making a positive impact? What feels good to you? What are you making significant progress towards?
Write them down and build on those instead. It’ll give you reasons to carry on and put a new spring in your step. Also, make sure your goals aren’t too big to accomplish in the time available and check to see if you have the right skills to achieve them. Be realistic and don’t waste time on things that don’t work.
3) Make the most of your time
Procrastination is the biggest stealer of time. Of course, we all need to wind down now and again, but avoid getting sucked into Netflix surfing or being consumed by social media for hours on end.
Spend that time more productively by swapping out motivational videos, audios, and coaching books. TED Talks are a great way to inspire action. There’ are plenty of online courses too. Not only will this improve your knowledge, but it will also give you the tools to fast-track your success.
4) Get fresh
Einstein said that “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”. So one of the reasons you’re not seeing results might be because you’re repeating the same old patterns.
If this is you, then it’s time to shake things up a bit. Take a fresh perspective on things or modify existing processes. Get some feedback so you know if they’re working or not. Continually renewing your vision keeps the momentum going and prevents you from getting stuck in a rut.
5) Look after yourself
If you’re serious about turning your dreams into reality then persistence is key. But watch out, don’t get so wrapped up in making your vision work that you neglect the most important aspect – you!
Stress affects your health: physical, mental, and emotional. And if you slow down when everything around you slows down too. When you feel you’re struggling, reboot and recharge. Boost your energy by going for a run, or a walk on the beach. Meditation is proven to de-stress, and help you think and work more effectively.
Take baby steps to the success you desire
Despite what we’re led to believe, attaining your ideal life doesn’t happen overnight. Yes, it will feel challenging, uncomfortable, and unbelievably slow at times. But understand that every tiny step you take along the way is something to be acknowledged and experienced in order to make you stronger and bolder. Keep going and good luck!
So chill out, trust the process, put one foot in front of the other, and eventually… You’ll get the Success that you want.
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