intelligent and average people how motivated differently?

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 16, 2021 | Psychology

Intelligent people are motivated through comprehension and recognition, while average people are motivated through effort and security.

Everyone has a burning drive inside of them. For some, they need to learn from others to find it. For others, the drive comes naturally and pushes them to do great things. See what those naturally highly motivated people do differently and what they can teach us.

1. They move on

Highly motivated people don’t dwell on problems. If they mess up on a speech in public, fail a test, or do something embarrassing, they don’t try to push it away. They don’t let their mistakes stop them from achieving their goals. Instead, they look at these mistakes as nothing but simple moments in their life. They accept them, learn from them, and move to the next thing on their to-do list. “You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on them. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” – Johnny Cash

2. They wake up early

For most people, the morning is the most productive time of the day. While the world sleeps, highly motivated people are getting things done. Distractions seem to disappear and great ideas will come fast in the early morning. “Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” – Benjamin Franklin

3. They read…a lot

When Bill Gates and Warren Buffet were asked if they could have one superpower they answered the same thing: to be able to read faster. Highly motivated people are always learning. Reading allows one to take in the knowledge of some of the smartest people who have ever lived. Highly motivated people don’t spend much time watching reality TV – they do, however, spend their time reading. Need some books to read? Get started with this reading Here.

4. They set goals

Highly motivated people are always working for something. They know what they want, and they search for ways to achieve it. Lifehack is filled with great articles on setting goals. Check out this one and start working for something.

5. They plan

Highly intelligent motivated people don’t leave things up to chance. Planning allows people to get things done faster and better. Highly motivated people know this, and they make use of it. Start waking up and planning all the things you have to do for the day. You’ll be amazed at how much more productive you are.

6. They seek advice when needed

There will be points in everyone’s life where they just can’t do it on their own. Highly intelligent motivated people are not afraid to go out and look for help. They don’t let stubbornness keep them from reaching their goals. Oftentimes, the best resource can be a person you see every day. Help them and they’ll help you. Yes, it’s that simple.

7. They don’t set limits

Highly intelligent motivated people never stop trying. They pursue their dreams without worry. Limits don’t exist in their minds. Take a second and imagine where you want to be in 5 years. Don’t worry about how impossible it sounds. Remember, highly motivated people don’t set limits. Now write it down. A highly motivated person would hang that piece of paper up, read it every morning, and work towards it every day.

8. They are grateful

Gratefulness has been shown to improve happiness time and time again. Highly motivated people know this and they practice gratefulness all the time. It helps keep them grounded and reminds them that they also had some help. Try to write down 5 things you’re grateful for every day. It doesn’t matter if they’re big or small – just 5 things you’re grateful for.

What will you do?

As soon as an intelligent person understands something, they start to obsess over the topic and become an expert in it. If they cannot understand it, they attack it until they do or forget about it and move onto something they can comprehend better.

But due to their childhoods, constantly having succeeded were other children struggled, they have been praised throughout much of their maturing lives. They learn that this recognition is part of their identity, and continue to strive for it into their adulthood.

Average people, on the other hand, only get praised when they have tried hard at something. This encourages them to put effort into things for their motivation. At the same time, they are rarely told to take risks: they are told to go to college, get a job, get married, and retire when they’re 66.

They prefer the safe kind of life rather than one that could be interesting, and that usually is what makes them average.

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spend your day in Ramadan? QNA

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 15, 2021 | Religious

How do you perform 3 rakat Beter/Watter salat?

The three Rakat wakter are performed in Esha prayer. In the first Rakat after reading Fateha recite any Surah and the second Rakat will be the same(ie. After Fateha read any Surah). After the second surah you will sit to read.. Attahayat and after that stand-up and read 3rd Rakat (read Fateha and any surah and after it read due kanoot and go to Rakuh and sajda).In case Due Kanoot is not learnt by heart any other Due can be read.

Is having fun during Ramadan considered a violation of the rules?

We have had fun for 11 months so what would be wrong if we forbid ourselves from having fun only for 30 days. Ramadan teaches us to stay away from any kind of fun while fasting. It is a single month of purification, ask forgiveness from Allah Almighty and devote ourselves only for 30 days which is not a long period.

How does social distancing effect Ramadan?

During Ramadan, Muslims attend the mosque nightly to stand in a congregation (foot to foot) for the evening prayers or tarawih. The mosque may have the iftar or breaking of the fast. At the very least, Muslims can greet each other and wish each other a happy and blessed Ramadan. This is the community spirit which is severely altered with social distancing, which started several months ago and affects the weekly, Friday prayers which are obligatory on all Muslim men.

Ramadan comes at a different time every year.

If Ramadan seems harder to predict than Easter or the Jewish High Holidays, there’s a reason for that. Ramadan follows a strictly lunar calendar, and a lunar year is about 11 days shorter than a solar year. So each year, Ramadan begins a little earlier in the annual round.

Easter always happens in the spring, and the High Holidays always happen in the fall (in the Northern Hemisphere). Ramadan moves backwards through the seasons, from summer to spring to winter to fall, completing the cycle every 33 years or so. That means a typical Muslim observes Ramadan in every season as the years pass. If Ramadan were made to conform to the solar year, some of us would have to always endure long summer days of fasting, while others, who always fasted in winter, would barely have time to notice they were hungry.

Don’t worry about us.

Thank you for your concern, but fasting is not dangerous. We fast from sun up to sundown each day, and we are often reminded to eat something just before we begin and at the moment the sunsets. There is no merit in prolonging the fast. Feats of asceticism are not just discouraged during Ramadan; they are universally frowned upon.

Those of us who are pregnant, or who have a health condition that could be aggravated by fasting, are exempt. As we age, most of us get to a point where we stop fasting or only fast briefly. If we have the means, we buy dates and oranges to hand out at sunset, or we pay for our neighbours’ iftar (fast-breaking evening meal).

Fasting is more of a trial during long summer days, so we may feel depleted by late afternoon. But as soon as the sun sets, we break our fast. In most communities, everyone is then invited to a free iftar at the mosque. During Ramadan, the rich and the poor sit together and share the same meal. We all hunger during the day and are filled in the evening.

Don’t hide your food and water.

You won’t offend us by eating your lunch or drinking your coffee in front of us. That is, if one of us does take offence, he or she might as well not be fasting. Kindness and good conduct toward others are more important than denying ourselves food and water. Ramadan is a month-long spiritual exercise, not a conspicuous display of piety or an effort to reach fitness goals. Observing Ramadan does not give me an excuse to demand that other people change their behaviour for my sake.

Besides, the experience of fasting is not a relentless craving for food or drink. The sight or smell of food is not torment. If you don’t believe me, try fasting for a day yourself. I believe you’ll feel different, but not deprived. If you’ve never fasted before, there may be some initial anxiety. But you’ll probably be surprised at how soon you stop thinking about what you thought you needed.

Questions are welcome.

If you’re curious, ask.

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কিভাবে কাটাবে রমজানে পিরিয়ডের দিন গুলো

হঠাৎ করে বসা অবস্থা থেকে উঠে দাঁড়ালে মাথা ঘোরে কেন? করণীয় কী?

আমি কি ম্যাচিউরড? কি করে বুঝবেন আপনি ম্যাচিউরড?

তবে কি আমজনতা এভাবেই মরবে ?

কাশি দেওয়ার সময় মহিলাদের প্রস্রাব চলে আসে কেন?

হঠাৎ মাথা ঘোরার কারণ এবং করণীয়

Come join us for dinner.

Many mosques serve iftar to non-Muslim visitors during Ramadan. (It’s a good idea to call ahead if you plan to come, especially if you are bringing a group.) Hospitality is a very important value to most Muslims. People will usually go out of their way to make you feel welcome.

Unless you are an exceptionally picky or timid eater, I think the food will please you. American Muslim communities are among the most diverse in the world, so you might be served an Arab casserole thing with aromatic rice, or maybe a South Asian curry and samosas, or (my current favourite) a spicy West African goat stew. Or there might be pizza. The greater the number of teens in the community, the greater the odds that pizza will be an option.

911 Operators Describe the Most Disturbing Calls they’ve Taken.

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 14, 2021 | Story

Most of us will only ever talk to 911 Operators on the worst day of our lives. They listen to our stories of death, pain, and crime all the while staying professional and calm. The job entails the ability to work under stressful situations, listening to the very worst aspects of life but when the shift ends what happens then? Who do they tell their stories to? A group of 911 operators shared their unforgettable scariest phone calls. Here’s a selection of the most disturbing tales they had to tell.

1. “I Need Your Help”

“There was an old couple who lived on a run-down ranch house about 20 miles east of town. When the husband passed away, the woman would call 911 Operators at least three times a week, asking for assistance with very mundane tasks not normally dealt with by first responders. “I need help turning the thermostat up”, “I need help boiling water for my tea”, etc. The woman developed dementia, and eventually, it progressed to the point where she believed she was calling 911 to ask her deceased husband for help. All of the dispatchers would recognize the address immediately, even though all she could say was “(husband’s name), I need help. Please come home and help me” One day she called, and again was only able to repeat her husband’s (I’ll call him “John”) name. “John, I need help. Please come home and help me, John.” By the time the first responders arrived on the scene, they found the woman lying dead in her bed. The first unit on the scene called dispatch to confirm that it was the woman herself who had called 911, as rigor Morris had already set in. We wrote it off as the fact that the heater in her house wasn’t working, and the ambient temperature in the room was about 50 degrees. We continued to receive 911 calls from that woman, at that address for just over a year after she passed away. Even after her home was vandalized, and burned to the ground, the phone calls did not stop. “John, I need your help. John, please come home and help me.” We were obligated to send a response each and every time, but not once did we find anyone on or near the property. Multiple calls to the phone company confirmed that the phone line had been disconnected, and the call was not coming from another address.”

2. Glass Breaking

“1979 NYC. Got a call from a crying child – a little boy – saying his mom and dad were fighting and his dad said he was going to throw the mom out of the window. I could hear a terrible fight going on in the background – a woman screaming, things breaking, a man yelling, etc. The poor kid didn’t know his address. We didn’t have the technology for call ID and would have to use reverse telephone books. A trace would take forever. Anyway, while I’m trying to get the address I hear a horrific scream and glass breaking. A few seconds later the other operators in the room are getting calls about a woman lying in the courtyard who came out of a window. Very sad. Worst of all is that I am sure someone else in this apartment building must have heard this fight but no one called for help until it was too late. Poor kid. Working 911 Operators in NYC during the 70s/80s was a nightmare.”

3. Alone in the House

“The single worst call I’ve ever taken though was a woman who was calling in that she was hearing weird noises in her house. While walking through her house she started screaming and told me there was someone in her house. There we a couple of soft pops followed by a gurgling sound. After the officers had cleared the house and found her, it finally came out during the investigation that her adult son had killed her while high and freaking out. Gunshots don’t sound like you’d think on the phone, they’re rather soft. It’s an eerie sound, something so violent being so soft that if you aren’t paying attention you can miss it.” .

4. Static on the Line

“My uncle works for dispatch in my town and he recently told my family of the weirdest call he’s ever gotten. He says that he had received a call from a landline one night and when he answered it there was only static on the other end. This happened two more times. Finally, he calls a squad to go check out the address from the caller ID. When the cops got there and walked into the house they immediately saw that there was a dead body. The person had been dead for 5 months. The craziest part about it was that there was no electricity or any other utility working. So there is no way they should have been able to get those calls into dispatch. But if they hadn’t, who knows how long that person’s body would have stayed there.”

5. Mom had fallen down the stairs and wouldn’t wake up.

When I was still working full time for the Fire Dept, I often took shifts working the medical part of the 911 Operators center.

Back in 2006, when flip phones were still the most common, pinning down a location was not very easy. We were still using primitive cell phone location technology which didn’t help as it only gave us a general area of miles instead of feet.

A young girl called in using her mom’s flip phone and she told me that her mom had fallen down the stairs and wouldn’t wake up. After several questions, I figured out the mother wasn’t breathing and this was the scariest part of the call because the girl couldn’t give us an address and when someone stops breathing the second’s count?

As much as I tried, I couldn’t get the little girl to tell me her address. All she could tell me was she lived on a farm which wasn’t helpful at all because a huge portion of my district is rural farmlands.

While talking to the young girl, I asked her how long ago her mom fell down the stairs. she told me that she fell down just after a TV show she was watching started.

I looked at the clock and it was just the top of the hour so piecing it together I surmised she had been down at least 30 minutes.

I asked the young girl to focus and try and tell me where she lives. I asked her if she knew the street name and she said she didn’t. I asked her if she could tell me any landmarks and that’s when she told me that the church she goes to is just down the street.

At this time, my supervisor and the police chief are looking at a map and they located 12 churches within the rural areas.

Since she couldn’t tell us which church, we decided to dispatch all of our units giving each of them a specific target.

Once they got to the target we instructed each unit to turn on their lights and sirens and drive around the area. With only one Fire Station with Two Ambulances and Several Fire Rescue Vehicles and 4 Police Officers to cover a huge area

We dispatched them to cover around the churches as the farmsteads were sometimes miles apart from each other.

Hearing our calls over the radio, several sheriff deputies and highway patrol troopers decided to join in and help. We are now almost 15 minutes into the call.

We told the young girl to take the phone and go outside and listen for the police cars and fire trucks. It seemed like forever, but she eventually heard the sirens from one of the vehicles but couldn’t see it.

We told each responder to stop and turn off their sirens and then, one by one, we had them turn them back on so we could tell which one was the closest to her.

It turned out to be one of the fire rigs so we sent everybody to their position and they then spread out to cover the general area. All with their sirens on again. Eventually, one of the State Troopers pulled onto her street and the girl could see him coming.

We pinned down the location as he got closer and the sirens got louder until she told us he was in front of her house.

This time the Trooper got inside the house the mother was breathing and trying to get her bearings and get up.

We got medical on scene and she was transported to the hospital with a broken back. The young girl was given a little reward from the police dept for her bravery in the call as she kept calm and did everything we told her to do.

The mother made a full recovery with no brain damage, Doctors don’t know if she did indeed stop breathing but only for a short time or if the girl didn’t understand the question and thought sleeping meant not breathing or something.

This call is a reminder, why we don’t stress enough to teach your kids your first and last names, their phone number and phone number of their parents, and most importantly, their home address and If there is a landline phone in the house to use that to call 911 Operators. Overusing a cell phone as the landline phone will give us an exact address. While cell phones are scariest while a lot better now can sometimes only give us a location of several hundred yards.

Timothy Wallace

911 Operators, Traffic Patrol & General Law Enforcement.

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What is the average sex time without foreplay?

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 12, 2021 | Knowledge

The average duration of sex time?

Vaginal sex typically lasts three to seven minutes, according to a 2005 Society for Sex Therapy and a Research member survey. According to the survey, vaginal sex that lasts one to two minutes is “too short.” Vaginal sex that lasts 10 to 30 minutes is considered “too long.” So how long should vaginal sex actually last? The sex therapists surveyed say that anywhere from 7 to 13 minutes is “desirable.” It’s important to note that these figures only apply to penile-vaginal intercourse. They don’t account for things like foreplay, and they aren’t representative of other types of sex.

It primarily depends on how you define sex time.

Most studies of this nature are based on intravaginal ejaculatory latency time (IELT). IELT refers to the time it takes a person with a penis to ejaculate during vaginal penetration. But this isn’t how everyone defines sex. Many people consider the end of sex to be once all involved parties have climaxed. This may be achieved through touching, oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex — or a combination. If intercourse is the only component in your definition of sex, then sex will likely only last a few minutes. It’s also worth noting that using IELT as a baseline assumes that penile-vaginal intercourse is the standard. Vaginal sex doesn’t always involve a partner who has a penis. And although it’s possible to extrapolate these figures to penile-anal intercourse, vaginal and anal sex aren’t the same thing. More research is needed to determine the average and desired duration for these encounters.

What you want out of an encounter is also important

Sex time should be pleasurable over anything else, and this comes down to personal preference. Some people want a long, sensual encounter, while others want something fast and aggressive. The key is that you’re having satisfying sex as opposed to beating the clock.

All that said, you can’t fight biology

In some cases, underlying biological factors may affect how long your sexual activities last.

Age

As you get older, you may find that:

it takes longer to become aroused
erections are more difficult to achieve and maintain
hormonal changes contribute to things like vaginal dryness and decreased libido

Genitalia

The shape of your genitals may also be a factor in sex time. Researchers in one 2003 study found that the shape of the penis — specifically the ridge around the head — may have evolved to be more competitive. The ridge is able to displace any preexisting semen in the vagina. Deeper and more vigorous thrusting results in more semen displacement. This allows the ejaculating partner to make room for their own semen, increasing their chance of reproduction. Using competitive evolution as a backdrop could explain why some people find it painful to keep thrusting after ejaculation. Continuing to thrust may displace your own semen and decrease your chance to reproduce.

Sexual dysfunction

Premature ejaculation, for example, can cause you to climax faster than you may prefer. People with delayed ejaculation may take longer to climax if they’re able to at all.

If you want shorter encounters

If a quickie is all you want, these techniques may help you get there faster.

Touch yourself

If you’re short on time, masturbation can be a great way to ensure that you achieve the Big O. After all, you know your body best! If your partner is already touching you, explore a different area. You can:

rub your clitoris
gently pinch or pull your nipples
gyrate your hips
smack your behind

You can also enjoy mutual masturbation, in which you each pleasure yourselves. This gives you both the opportunity to climax faster while still being intimate.

Tell your partner what you want

Communicating your desires to your partner — and vice versa — can help you both understand what it takes to make each other orgasm. You can utilize what you learn to get to the finish line faster for mutually gratifying quickies.

Try climax-inducing positions

If you know that certain positions feel better for you than others, shift as needed to get yourself there faster. This can include positions that encourage deeper penetration or those that make it easier for you to manually pleasure yourself or your partner at the same time.

If you want longer encounters

If you want to prolong your exploration, these techniques may help.

Semans’ stop-start technique

Also known as “edging,” this involves temporarily stopping all sexual stimulation when you feel like you’re close to ejaculation. You and your partner can resume your activity once this feeling has passed. Although this technique was originally founded to help a person who has a penis delay ejaculation, it can be used by anyone looking to prolong climax.

Johnsons’ and Masters’ squeeze technique

This technique entails gently squeezing the end of the penis for several seconds just before ejaculation until the urge subsides. It can also be used to practice ejaculatory control.

The bottom line:

The definition of what sex is, individual expectations, and mutual desires all influence how long sex may last. If you’re concerned about how long you’re able to have sex, consider making an appointment with a doctor or other healthcare professional. They can discuss how you’re feeling, answer any questions you have, and assess any underlying symptoms or other discomforts.

A highly intelligent person different from an average person!

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 12, 2021 | Psychology

10 common traits of highly intelligent people

Smart people aren’t just defined by their outrageously high scores on IQ tests. They tend to share a bunch of other characteristics, like insatiable curiosity and a good sense of humour. We took a look at a Quora thread where users have listed some common traits of highly intelligent people and checked out the science to see if it backs them up. Here are 10 qualities of super-smart people:

Interesting vs boring: Whatever bores the intelligent is often lifeblood for the average. Whatever terrorises the average is fun, thrill, challenge and entertainment for the intelligent.
Difficult vs easy: Whatever the average shun or discard as difficult, impossible, not worth trying is pounced upon by the intelligent and accepted as welcome distraction, learning opportunity, chance to prove a theory or thought right. Everything that the average think is challenging or problematic- is a cakewalk, child’s play, molehill for the intelligent.
Sociability: The average enjoy the little things in life; birthday parties, community get-togethers, fairs in town, family gatherings, hanging out with friends, binge movie watching, laughing at any and everything. The intelligent get entangled in the intellectual side of things, pullings facts from facts, seeking answers and posing questions. They may never be able to enjoy birthday parties, get-togethers as frivolous joys don’t make sense to them and are just a waste of time.
Entertainment: Light-hearted and deep stuff drives the majority of choices in selecting films and books. The average person will watch a comedy movie and die laughing; the intelligent will scorn such a laugh and find the comedy tragic! He will settle for only intellectual stuff but that is most of the times dull, boring, heavy, nonsense, above-comprehension, unfit to enjoy for the average.
Conversation: Simple chit chat, exchange of pleasantries, discussing latest movie, film stars, new colleague, Facebook/ Insta trends is a normal conversation for average- it is downright taboo for the intelligent. They get bored to death. They in turn talk about Big Bang, the Relativity Theory, the Meta Physical, the difference between mind and brain or general consciousness, sending the average to fall asleep like Sleeping Beauty.
Thought process: The intelligent think too much about things, bent on analysing every fall of a leaf, every frown on a face, dissecting every thought and opinion in minute detail, while the average doesn’t think at all; the world is going to end? Fine. It will end for everybody else also. Why should I alone worry about it? New research finding? The heck. How does it affect my job, children? Not at all. So why waste thought on that? Movie? Well, I watch it to forget my thought, not to think about it, Lol…
Studies: The average shies from academics, tests, research, studies, degrees, schools, all of which provides an adrenaline rush to intelligence. There’s something in writing tests and studies, that they can’t resist. Even after completing their academics, they continue studying something or the other even if doesn’t bring them any monetary or career advantages. They are born as a student and die as students.
Hobbies: The average has endearingly simple hobbies: dancing, swimming, cycling, football, watching movies. The intelligent have complicated ones: learning languages (that they don’t even need), chess, Sudoku, taking the challenge to read 100 books this year, museums.
Solitude: The average has a large army of like-minded friends, without whom their world comes to a standstill and looks like an ugly place. Solitude is depressing, stressful, demotivating and a curse that must be avoided at all costs. The intelligent adore solitude. They have very few friends who are as aloof as they themselves and will rarely attempt meeting new people, making friends, socialising with them. Their solitude charges their battery and is a source of getting connected with their inner higher self, joy and self-reflection.
Priorities and ambitions: The average place a lot of importance on career, money, promotion, family, children, parents, bank balance, status, material objects, holidays, vacations, public image, brands of shoes and clothes. The intelligent place their goals in learning, studying, knowing. They don’t care what others think about them. They are aloof and don’t stick too close to family members. Vacation and holidays are interesting so long as they include museums visits, historical or deep interesting stuff. Promotions? They may even ask their boss to demote them if it means learning something. Money, balance, brands are just unsubstantial and of no consequence.
I rarely compare myself to others: This is probably the one that matters most in my daily life. I almost never compare myself to others because, in my experience, it is rarely a useful measurement of anything objective and is not a reliable source of information about anything subjective. I tend to compare myself to myself.

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যাকে ভালোবাসি সবচেয়ে সহযে তাকে ভুলে যাওয়ার উপায় কি?

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 12, 2021 | Psychology

আমি নিজেও এ ধরনের পরিস্থিতির সম্মুখীন হয়েছি। আমি একটা কথা প্রায়ই বলি, সেটা হচ্ছে নিজেকে ভালোবাসতে হবে।

যাকে ভালোবেসেছিলাম তাকে ভুলে যাওয়ার উপায় আদওতে আছে কিনা জানিনা

আমরা সবসময়ই অন্যদের নিয়ে ভেবে মনকে এত বেশি ব্যস্ত রাখি যে নিজের জন্য কোনো সময়ই হয়না। এটা করতে পারলে জীবনটা খুব সহজ হয়ে যায়। অন্যদের থেকে এক্সপেকটেশনটা কমে যায়। নিজের উপর অন্যকে নিয়ন্ত্রণ নিতে দেবেন না, তাতে আত্মার শান্তি নষ্ট হয়। তেমনিভাবে আপনিও কাউকে নিয়ন্ত্রণ করতে যাবেন না। সময় সব ঠিক করে দেয়। Time heals almost everything. Give time. ব্রেক আপের পর কিছু সময় যাকে ভালোবাসেন তাকে চাইলেও ভুলতে পারবেন না। সম্ভবই না। কাজের চাপে হয়তো সাময়িক ছুটি নেবে সে চিন্তা থেকে।কোন কিছু নিয়ে ডুবে থাকলে হয়তো মনে হবে ভুলে যাচ্ছি। মনে আসছে না। কিন্তু যখন আবার বন্ধুবান্ধব, পরিবার, কাজ শেষে একা হয়ে যাবেন সে চলে আসবে সামনে। বিভিন্ন ভাবে নিউরনে রয়ে যাওয়া তার মুখ, কথা, হাসি মনে পরবে। মনে মনে বলবেন- হে ঈশ্বর কতটা চোখের জলে সব কষ্ট ধুয়ে মুছে যায় বলতে পারো? কিন্তু বেশ কিছু সময় যখন চলে যাবে তখন মন মেনে নেয়, প্রতিবাদ করে না। আর আমি ব্যাক্তিগত ভাবে বিশ্বাস করি– যার সাথে কিছু হয় নাই তা সেটা যে কারনেই হোক ভালোর জন্য হয়েছে। হয়তো আপনার কষ্ট হচ্ছে। মনে হচ্ছে সেই পারফেক্ট ছিল কিন্তু যখন সে থাকলোই না মেনে নেয়াই ভাল। ভেবে কি হবে? পাবেন তাকে? জীবনে চলে আসবে? আসবে না। পাবেন না। তাই মেনে নিলে আপনি নিজে ভাল থাকবেন।আমরা সবাই জীবন একবার পাই । কাজেই অতীতের মানুষ নিয়ে ভাবনা চিন্তা বেশি করলে বর্তমান বিষাক্ত হয়ে যায় , ভবিষ্যৎ নতুন কারো হাত ধরে শুরু করা যায় না। কাজেই সিধান্ত নিজেকেই নিতে হবে । শরৎ চন্দ্রের দেবদাস হয়ে থাকব নাকি অতীত জীবন ভুলে সুন্দর করে নতুন ভাবে শুরু করব! আপনাকে নিজেকে ভালোবাসার কিছু উপায় বলে দিচ্ছি – আরও পড়ুন:

যে প্রশ্ন করে মানুষের ব্যক্তিত্ব সম্পর্কে জানতে পারি?

টেলিপ্যাথি কী? টেলিপ্যাথি’র মাধ্যমে কীভাবে যোগাযোগ হয়ে থাকে?

১. মন খারাপ দূর করতে নিজেকে কিছু গিফট করুন। নতুন কিছু পেলে আমাদের মন ভালো হয়ে যায়। এটা আমার খুব কাজে দেয়। আমি নিজের টাকায় নিজের জন্য কিছু কিনি। ২. বন্ধুদের সাথে কথা বলুন। অবশ্যই সমস্যা নিয়ে না, পূর্বের কোন আনন্দময় সময় নিয়ে আলাপ করুন। ৩. একা ভালো কোনো রেস্টুরেন্টে খেয়ে আসুন। ৪. নতুন কিছু শিখার চেষ্টা করুন। এটাও ব্যস্ত থাকার একটা কৌশল। ৫. পরিবারে সময় দিন। কারো কোনো কাজে হেল্প লাগলে, করুন। ৬. বসে বসে নিজের মনে আসা সারাদিনের খারাপ চিন্তাগুলোর লিস্ট করুন। এবং এগুলোর যৌক্তিকতা কতটুকু তা ভাবুন। তাহলে দেখবেন, অন্যের ভুলগুলো ও ছোট হয়ে আসবে। ৭. বই পড়ুন। সত্যি এটা ১০০%কার্যকরী। বই পড়লে আমরা অন্য জগতে চলে যাই, তখন আর কোনো কিছুই মনে থাকে না। এবং বই শেষ করার পরও অনেক সময় পর্যন্ত এর কাহিনী আমাদের মাথায় ঘুরতে থাকে। ৮. কমেডি ফিল্ম অথবা আর্ট ফিল্ম দেখুন। এসব কিছুই নিজের মনকে ব্যস্ত রাখার কৌশল। এ কাজ গুলো একান্তই আমার নিজস্ব অভিমত। তবে আমি কোনো এক্সপার্ট নই। কখনো কোন মানুষের কাছ থেকে ১০০% এক্সপেকটেশন রাখা ঠিক না। তাদের জন্য যথেষ্ট স্পেস রাখবেন, তাহলে কষ্ট কম পাবেন। আর যদি স্পেস নাও পান তাহলে ভুলে যাওয়ার উপায় খুজতে হবে না এমনিতেই ভুলে যাবেন । এক এক জন আলাদা আলাদা পদ্ধতিতে এই জীবন সংগ্রামে এগিয়ে যায় ধীরগতিতে! আপনিও আপনার মনমত কিছু করার চেষ্টা করুন! তবে খেয়াল রাখবেন ধ্বংসাত্মক কিছু করে যেন নিজের ক্ষতির কারণ না হন! অলীক স্বপ্ন থেকে নিজেকে রাহুমুক্ত করুন, বাস্তবতায় ফিরে আসুন। ভালো থাকবেন, সুস্থ থাকবেন ধন্যবাদ!

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