by Md Kawsar Munna | Mar 22, 2021 | Psychology
Saying things like,
"I'm not scared of anything," or, "I didn't want that promotion anyway," doesn't necessarily mean you're mentally strong. In fact, there's a good chance you might just be acting tough.
While acting tough may meet your needs in the short term by artificially boosting your ego or by getting other people to back off, it's not a good long-term strategy. In fact, a new study conducted by psychologists at Rutgers University found that men who act tough may suffer serious consequences.
The study, published in The Journal of Health Psychology, found that men who act tough visit doctors less often. They're also less forthcoming about their medical symptoms when they see a male physician. (Interestingly, these same men were more likely to choose a male doctor because they believe male doctors are more competent than females).
Researchers suspect that delaying medical appointments and minimizing symptoms could be one of the reasons why men die, on average, five years earlier than women.
But clearly, it's not always just men who feel the need to act tough. Many women do, as well. Here are some signs you're just acting tough:
- You always hide in your comfort zone.
- You don’t try new things because you fear failure.
- You give up easily because the tasks are too challenging.
- You complain a lot to the people around you.
- You are always looking at other people’s lives and never working on yourself.
- You let society dictate your goals and dreams.
- You are a people-pleaser.
- You are afraid to voice your true opinions.
- You let people step all over you.
- You seek the easiest way out.
- You readily give up your morals or principles in exchange for something gratifying.
- You don’t fight for what you want.
- You follow the herd.
- You make up excuses convincing yourself you can’t accomplish the things you want to do.
- You engage in useless gossiping.
Mentally strong people, however, are interested in controlling themselves rather than the people around them. They're invested in regulating their thoughts, managing their emotions, and behaving productively, despite whatever circumstances they find themselves in.
Be a mentally strong person
If you're guilty of putting up a fake exterior that helps you feel tough, consider the toll it may take on your life. Invest in building mental strength, so the way you feel on the inside matches how others see you on the outside. As your mental strength increases, your desire to act tough decreases.
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by Md Kawsar Munna | Mar 22, 2021 | Information, Others
১৯৯৮ সালে সনিকে তার একটা বিশেষ মডেলের ৭ লাখ sony camera বাজার থেকে সরিয়ে নিতে হয়েছিলো। ক্যামেরাটির একটা বিশেষ বৈশিষ্ট ছিলো।
সনি তার নতুন ক্যামকোডারের এক্স-রে, নাইট ভিশন, ইনফ্রারেড টেকনোলজি নিয়ে দারুণ মার্কেটিং করেছিলো কারণ এই sony camera টি অন্ধকারেও ছবি তুলতে সক্ষম। ক্রেতাদের জন্য দারুণ এক প্রোডাক্ট, তাই না?
কিন্তু সবকিছু পরিকল্পনামতো গেলো না।
দিনের আলোতে নাইটশট ছবির এমন একটা বৈশিষ্ট্য আবিষ্কৃত হলো যেটা খুব গ্রহণযোগ্য নয়।
দেখা গেলো মানুষজন পোষাক পরিহিত অবস্থায় নারীদের ছবি তুলছে এই মোডে এবং ছবি তোলার পর তাদের প্রায় নগ্ন দেখাচ্ছে।[১]
ABC নিউজের একজন রিপোর্টার জানান যে, অন্ততঃ ১২ টি ওয়েবসাইট পাওয়া যায় যেখানে প্রায় নগ্ন মহিলার ছবি পাওয়া যাচ্ছে অথচ ছবিগুলো তোলার সময় তারা সবাই কাপড় পরে ছিলেন।
এটা ভয়ংকর - আমি মনে করি এটা যে কাউকেই ক্ষুব্ধ করবে। আপনি বাইরে গেলে এটা আশা করবেন না যে মানুষ আপনার কাপড়ের নিচে কি আছে সেটা দেখবে। এটা একটি মৌলিক অধিকারের লঙ্ঘন এবং পৃথিবীর যেকোন দেশের আদালত এরকমটাই রায় দেবে।[২]
পূর্বোল্লিখিত 'এক্স-রে' ভিশন আসে এক ধরণে বিশেষ লেন্সের মাধ্যমে যেটা বিশেষ বিশেষ ক্ষেত্রে কাপড় ভেদ করে আংশিকভাবে দেখতে পায় তার ইনফ্রারেড টেকনোলজি দ্বারা (সাধারণতঃ গাঢ় রঙের কাপড়ের ক্ষেত্রে কাপড়টাকে অর্ধস্বচ্ছ দেখায়)।
যে কোন পাতলা ব্লাউজ বা কাপড়ের উপর যদি প্রচুর আলো ফেলা হয় তাহলে তার নিচে কি আছে সেটার একটা অবয়ব দেখা যায়; এই সনি ক্যামকোডার দ্বারাও একই দৃশ্য দেখা যায়।[৩]
পরিস্থিতি সামাল দিতে টেকজায়ান্ট সনি বাজারে বিক্রি হওয়া এই মডেলের সকল পণ্য বাজার থেকে তুলে নেয়ার ঘোষণা দিতে বাধ্য হয়।
দুর্ভাগ্যজনকভাবে, মানুষজন বিভিন্নভাবে এই ক্যামকোডার জোগাড় করার চেষ্টা করেছিলো এবং কোন কোনটি ৭০০ ডলারে পর্যন্ত বিক্রি হয়েছিলো।
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by Md Kawsar Munna | Mar 22, 2021 | Psychology
Here are 20 Mind-Blowing Psychological Facts You Should Know About Yourself.
1. Shy people talk little about themselves, but they do this in a way that makes other people feel that they know them very well.
2. 98% of the time when someone says they have to ask you a question, you think of all the bad things you’ve done recently.
3. Good morning and good night text messages activate the part of the brain responsible for happiness.
4. Writing notes longhand, instead of typing them, helps you learn what you’re notating because writing engages a different part of the brain than typing.
5. Thinking through decisions in a foreign language helps take the emotion out of your thoughts and helps you focus on making a more rational decision.
6. When you fly in your dreams, psychology says that you have a desire to express creativity & break out of your normal life.
7. Any friendship that was born in the period between 16 and 28 years of age is more likely to be robust and long-lasting.
8. People who have a strong sense of guilt are better at understanding other people's thoughts and feelings.
9. Playing with blocks helps younger children with learning because it teaches spatial concepts, as well as physics.
10. A study actually found that playing video games can have some good side effects on kids, too. Video games give kids a chance to unleash their negative emotions and also to face and defeat scary things.
11. You might think it’s the opposite, but announcing your goals to others actually demotivates you and makes you less likely to meet your goal.
12. Having a plan B means plan A is less likely to work.
13. Playing Chess makes you smarter — it slows you down and forces you to concentrate. Chess also relies on players to think through things from various angles — they must use both deductive and inductive thinking.
14. Listening to high-frequency music makes you feel calm, relaxed, and happy.
15. When lovers look into each others’ eyes, their heartbeats synchronize.
16. Our emotions don't affect the way we communicate. In fact, the very opposite is true: the way we communicate has an influence on our mood.
17. CLINOMANIA is the excessive desire to stay in bed all day.
18. 70% of people enjoy old songs because of the memories they’ve attached to them.
19. Women with higher IQs have a harder time finding a mate intelligent women would rather remain single than be with the wrong person.
20. Allowing yourself to experience the negative emotions of an event in your life might actually help you move past it faster.
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by Md Kawsar Munna | Mar 22, 2021 | Psychology
I encounter many misconceptions about what it means to be mentally strong or weak.
Ironically, many of the behaviors often associated with weakness are actually a sign of mental strength. Our culture often values "toughness" over "true strength."
Acting tough is about external appearances. It involves creating a persona that convinces other people you're impervious to pain.
True mental strength involves working on your character. Mentally strong people are willing to be vulnerable and quite often, people confuse their openness and honesty with frailty.
Being mentally weak is contextual. It varies from person-to-person, and situation to situation. A guy who is recovering from prolonged illness could be vulnerable to mental weakness due to intake of medicines or surgeries to avoid the spread of a cause of disease.
A feeble person with a low intake of energizing food or supplements could be susceptible to mental weakness.
Likewise, anybody who has been through neurosurgery could show signs of mental weakness.
Or,
An old man who asks his grandchild about his eyeglasses 8 times a day while holding them in his right hand could be an example of mental weakness.
But, all of these four examples express that mental weakness is invariably connected to a reason which is perceptible and tangible.
But, if you’re looking for an answer with perspectives of psychology then the answer would be the direct opposite of whatever has been taught to us
For example, if someone acts peevishly with friends, neighbors, or colleagues then mental strength or weakness has nothing to do here. It is purely a flawed character.
Similarly, being forgetful isn’t necessarily a sign of mental weakness - It could be due to disorganized routines.
So, you need to be pretty clear about what you’re calling signs of mental weakness?
Anyways,
I believe the following are the 4 signs of mental weakness. Most importantly, they will help you understand how they keep us in shackles - psychologically and physiologically.
Overthinking is Big Distraction, Massive Destruction of Opportunities.
To unfold the mystery of ‘Overthinking’, I want to call the use of it ‘Arbitrary’. It is a blessing and a curse at the same time. And, are you wondering how? Look it is overthinking which gets you to jump out of your bed in the morning to reach your classroom earlier to save time but also it keeps you up late at night because you worry to not miss an important point while you’d be in the exam hall.
Let’s look at overthinking from a physiology point of view:
To understand the true story of overthinking; you’ll have to meet four characters that play their Oscar-worthy roles every second in everybody’s mind anywhere anytime:
1– Dopamine - It is a personal coach in this story. He is a full-time employee and never gets tired of his duty of motivating any human and produces feelings of risk and reward. Every time, you get caught in a fight or flight moment, consider it as dopamine in action.
2- Adrenaline – It is an uncanny resemblance of ‘Three Witches’ in a Shakespeare play named ‘Macbeth’. If you let loose of it - It will increase your heart rate and blood pressure. So, be careful before Three-Witches make stratagem to destroy your inner peace.
3- Serotonin - A protagonist of a story whose work is to bring happiness and lead you to inner peace. It fights like a warrior: Bruised but brave.
4- Cortisol - An antagonist for the brain. It is the main reason for unhealthy overthinking.
By the way, Serotonin and Cortisol can’t sit in a room together. They can’t be together.
And, Cortisol is very cunning in its maneuvering that it releases itself into a region located in proximity to the center of the brain known as the Hypothalamus. That’s why; almost everybody is inclined to overthink because our enemy hits our epicenter with ease.
But, you don’t need to worry at all ( Dear Quora Readers); I’m going to share a couple of tricks to program your brain to block Cortisol from destroying your mental strength:
a - Change the Chemical Structure of your Brain.
Cortisol has stormtroopers to infiltrate your brain known as ‘Cortisol Receptors’. Block them before they reach your threshold. Once, you’re successful in thwarting Cortisol Receptors, Cortisol loses its power by half to damage your mental peace.
b - Change the Physical Structure of your Brain.
Research has found that an area of your brain called the orbitofrontal cortex, located just behind your eyes and in front of the hypothalamus, is associated with stress levels. Those with a thicker orbitofrontal cortex on the left side have higher levels of optimism and less anxiety. So, instead of having to directly face the cortisol villain yourself, you can combat its negative effects by modifying another structure in your brain.
There could be many other signs of being mentally weak possibly i.e., boredom, fatigue, and anxiety, etc.
But I will rank ‘Overthinking’ as only a reason and sign of being mentally weak.
Always remember: ‘Overthinking’ slows down and somebody passes you.
So, get rid of overthinking and speed up to reach your destiny.
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