Why intelligent people are like childish or immature?

by | Apr 25, 2021 | Psychology

There is a general stereotype that intelligent people are childish or immature. Why is that? Apart from the fact that some people appear childish and some of them are intelligent, is there any link between the two? Let’s explore 2 things in this post – What makes someone intelligent? and What makes someone appear childish? Let’s assume that this notion is partially true – Some Intelligent people are childish, just like some unintelligent people are childish. We are only looking at why some intelligent people appear childish or why this stereotype is believable. We should first ask ourselves what is it that makes any person childish and intelligent at the same time. Is it their behavior? Their thought process? Their speech? Their dreams and ideas? All of it, perhaps?
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Who appears intelligent (regardless of age)?

Signs of intelligence

We should also look at intelligence from a general point of view because when we judge others as intelligent, we aren’t putting them through tests. Intelligence is the ability to adapt, reason, and solve new problems and we judge people as intelligent or not intelligent based on certain tell-tale signs. We use cues that we associate with intelligence based on common sense, knowledge, or experience (which overlap well with scientifically supported correlates of intelligence). These signs of intelligence are usually – good memory and thinking ability, good attitude and hard-working nature, general and tacit knowledge, language proficiency and reasoning, decision-making, trust, creativity, achievements, and problem-solving.  All of these help a person adapt to a new situation and cope with problems. So judging someone as intelligent is an educated guess based on what cues you value and what you think intelligence looks like.
Intelligence comes on many levels. It can be the ability to reason, think, and solve problems on-demand (fluid intelligence). It can be the ability to use previously learned skills, knowledge, and methods (crystallized intelligence). And, it can be domain-based such as music, art, mathematics, language, sports, etc. Or it could be a general off-shoot of cognitive abilities (mental processes). If we see hints of excellence or achievement in any of these in other people, we tend to label them as intelligent people.

Stereotypes and judgments of intelligence

Some people tend to think of intelligence as a counter-balance to other deficits – to justify or rationalize something. You’d hear mothers describing their children as – “he is very impulsive and reckless, but he is smart, he can focus when he loves to do something.” Another possible perspective on a child’s intelligence – “My kid is very impulsive and odd, maybe he is a genius??” So judgments of intelligence are not always true reflections of intelligence – they are sense-making judgments. These are extended to evidence-based cliches like super-intelligent people are prone to mental disorders, have anxiety-induced mental performance issues, or are romantically less desirable.  While they are not necessarily true for all intelligent people, there is a shred of truth in them. Some people can even rationalize other people’s intelligence by counter-balancing it with less desirable adult traits. Such as being naive, immature, or a pain-in-the-ass. These negative words describe a child, but a child is expected to be naive (innocent), immature (yet to develop), or a pain-in-the-ass (a whole lotta work, because mammals; you know?)
Let’s look at 4 childish personality traits now. These tendencies or traits that adults have can make them appear childish to others.

Adult personality traits that make them appear childish

1. Impulsivity: High intelligence is closely associated with Impulsive behavior which appears childish to some.

Children tend to be impulsive and go after things they desire. If you see this in adults, you might consider the adult to be childish. A part of impulsivity called “Delay discounting” is associated with intelligence. Low scores on Delay discounting means you prefer immediate rewards and devalue future rewards, even if future rewards are greater. Something like – if you have the chance to get 100 dollars today or wait for a month and get 200 dollars, you’d choose 100 dollars. For adults, high intelligence is associated with 2 important aspects of impulsivity – low scores on delay discounting and high scores on non-planning (improvising, winging it, going unprepared to shop, etc.) Why would this be the case? Let’s go back to what intelligence means – a general ability to adapt and solve problems. Faith in adaptability and problem-solving could permit intelligent people to take such risks without too many negative consequences. An impulsive purchase can be balanced by eliminating the need to purchase something else or spending effort (not money) to solve another problem.

2. Emotional expression: An intelligent person appears childish when emotional expressions are bold, free, honest, and unrestricted

Emotional regulation – a subset of emotional intelligence – is how we manage, express, filter, and understand our emotions in acceptable ways. Children are yet to learn these because of fewer life experiences. Emotional intelligence grows with age-related experience, for most people. However, if an adult lacks emotional intelligence – commonly dubbed as emotional maturity – the adult appears childish and immature. Children typically have bold emotional and facial expressions, but adults have them contained, inhibited, or restricted. When adults demonstrate bold emotions, they may be perceived as child-like. The cliche that intelligent people are emotionally immature may be more false than true because research does show that emotional intelligence is associated with academic achievement and academic achievement is an indication of intelligence. Adults who end up expressing their desires boldly or reacting emotionally may indicate that they lack emotional regulation or don’t adhere to emotional norms like containing emotions in public gatherings. For example, not “adulting,” freely enjoying or expressing honestly. Adults have norms that restrict some emotional expression but children express them freely.

3. High curiosity and exploration: Well-read and skilled people tend to be curious like children and have a thirst for exploration

Children are curious creatures. That’s how they learn. Curiosity is a way to make more sense of anything; more than what you already know. It’s about closing the knowledge gap between what you know and what you don’t know. Boredom, on the other hand, is the absence of this sense-making process and goes hand-in-hand with boredom. Curiosity can kill boredom and the lack of it can induce boredom – something is typically seen in children. Curiosity, especially for seemingly insignificant things, can make others feel that the curious person lacks a complete goal-oriented focus. However, curiosity is one of the deepest mechanisms of quality learning. So if not a true genius, a curious person is likely to be a skilled and knowledgeable person. They may ask dozens of basic questions like children do – like the continuous “why?”

4. Dependent on others: Intelligent adults who depend on others for basic activities may appear childish

A typical child is dependent on adults. If another adult is wholly independent and self-reliant, the adult is seen as a strong independent adult. However, a highly dependent or needy person, even if intelligent, is seen as a childish person. Most theories agree that a parent-child attachment affects adult attachment patterns – how we depend on others, how dependable others are, how secure you feel, etc. Any form of an insecure attachment pattern could suggest that the person is perceived as not mature (whether or not it is true). And the jump from not mature to childlike is not a big one if other hints of childishness like strong emotional expressions exist.

Biases fuel the childish-immature-intelligent person stereotype

Ultimately, if an adult has any or all of the 4 traits and is intelligent, we tend to think that intelligent people are childish. Some of those traits like curiosity and impulsivity are more closely related to intelligence and childishness than other traits like emotional expression and dependence. We then go through a confirmation bias when we see examples of such people and remember them better because they fit our preconceived notions. Another thinking error that biases our memory is the survivorship bias – For a few intelligent but childish people who stand out, there could be a hundred more who appear ordinary and don’t stand out. That could draw our attention to the few which do stand out and bias our memory toward them – fueling a stereotype and assuming that childish-intelligent people are overrepresented. Like our Facebook page & see our videos on YouTube

Make People Like You IMMEDIATELY with Psychological Tricks.

by | Apr 25, 2021 | Psychology

We found 9 Psychological Tricks we must follow to become that kind of person.

There are people who radiate such inexplicable magnetism that absolutely everyone reaches to them. They wish to be like them, win their friendship or approval. And the most curious thing is that it does not depend on the appearance of these people.

Amazing Psychology And Mind Tricks

1. Individual Image

You need a unique image. Even more, a totally exclusive detail. After all, your own original image is what makes strangers remember you. And we are not talking about beauty. It sounds strange, but the singularity can be expressed even in ugliness and vulnerability. Any of your signature features – whether it’s a pace, gesture, facial expression, intonation, style of communication, or an item of clothing can make you memorable. Here are some examples of details of famous people they are associated with:
  • Charlie Chaplin – mustache, suit, cane
  • Tilda Swinton – asexuality, no makeup
  • Winston Churchill – Fat Cigars
  • Joseph Stalin – mustache, pipe, accent
  • Adolf Hitler – original moustache shape, intonation
  • Dita Von Teese – The Image of the 1940s, Red Lipstick
  • Marilyn Monroe – hair color, mole
  • Salvador Dali – mustache, facial expressions

2. You Need A Big Dream

In order for people to approach and appreciate you as a truly unique personality, you must have a reason to exist. Ambitions, goals, a desire to change something in this world. Fight for something. Because a person without a dream is a book without an idea. Why would you read it?

3. Be Confident

To be charismatic, you must have confidence. Courageously make decisions, be able to rely only on yourself, don’t expect outside help, and explain your ideas to others in a way they understand. People around you can feel your confidence not only in behavior but also in speech. It’s better to avoid phrases like “I think, I hope, I guess, I expect, maybe, probably.”

4. Forget About Complaints

Could you admire and want to be like a person who always complains? Of course not. Charismatic people have a positive mindset. Avoid criticism, complaints, and negative issues. Even if not everything is good in your life, start a conversation that brings you pleasure and does the same to your listeners.

5. Use Body Gestures

Your behavior must demonstrate your confidence: do not bend over, do not tempt with objects or parts of your body, try to smile more frequently, look the person in the eye, and avoid closed postures. In general, when you appear in public, act and feel like a celebrity on the red carpet.

6. Become A Great Storyteller

Many people believe that the ability to make almost all stories interesting is a talent. But this is not always the case. Mainly, it is a skill that can be learned. Just speak with confidence. Use humor, especially self-irony: the ability to laugh at yourself. Don’t forget body language, be emotional and positive. Don’t worry if not all your stories and jokes “work”.
Tell your personal stories. After hearing something really interesting, people will share it with others.

7. Don’t Look Away

When you talk to someone, always look them in the eye. Sometimes a penetrating glance can say more than a thousand words. Eye contact shows that you are listening to your caller and that you understand and accept them as a person. Most importantly, when you’re talking to someone at an event, don’t be distracted by strange things. Do not look at your cell phone or the crowd as it may seem like you are looking for a more “proper” interlocutor.

8. Learn To Listen To Others

There is no need to consider yourself the most important person in the world. A genuine interest in other people’s lives can make people love you more because listening to people is a true art. If you listen carefully to the other person and show interest in their conversation, you will begin to feel necessary and even special. Obviously, you cannot remember everything your interlocutor said to you, but remembering the name is a big problem. Here is an interesting trick. When a person introduces himself, repeat the name: “Mike, nice to meet you.” And if you want people to remember you, use the same trick with your name: “Hi, I’m Susan. Susan Jones.”
  READ MORE: Why are genius people so many Intellectually humble?  

9. Use The Mirror Effect

The mirror effect, or simply mirroring, is an easy way to create someone like you by repeating their facial expressions, intonations, and gestures. It always works because the method is based on the nature of human narcissism: an interlocutor, unconsciously, begins to feel that you are synchronized with them. You can also use this trick to adopt other people’s unique characteristics. For example, some famous people who seem charismatic to you. See how they are presented, as this can help you feel more secure. You can find a detailed analysis of such examples on the video channel “Charisma on Command”.

Why genius people so many Intellectually humble?

by | Apr 25, 2021 | Knowledge

Let's look at some really humble sayings attributed to geniuses:

genius is Interesting: Plato

The inexperienced in wisdom and virtue, ever occupied with feasting and such, are carried downward, and there, as is fitting, they wander their whole life long, neither ever looking upward to the truth above them nor rising toward it, nor tasting pure and lasting pleasures. Like cattle, always looking downward with their heads bent toward the ground and the banquet tables, they feed, fatten, and fornicate. In order to increase their possessions they kick and butt with horns and hoofs of steel and kill each other, insatiable as they are.

A hopeless description, if you ask me.

Aristotle

The first philosophers, in investigating the truth and the nature of things, wandered, as if led by ignorance, into a certain... path. Hence, they say that no being is either generated or corrupted, because it is necessary that what is generated should be generated either from being or non-being…

The first philosophers, says Aristotle, wandered as followers to none else but ignorance itself.

Socrates

Each of these private teachers who work for pay ... inculcates nothing else than these opinions of the multitude which they opine when they are assembled and calls this knowledge wisdom.

In other words, private teachers working for pay in his day are posers; pseudo-intellectuals; unlike himself.

I realized that it was not by wisdom that poets write their poetry, but by a kind of nature or inspiration, such as you find in seers and prophets; for these also say many beautiful things, but do not know anything of what they say.

Whatever happened to “all I know is I know nothing.”

Let's look at more modern “geniuses”.

Einstein

Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions that differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions.

Simply put, most people have weak minds.

The majority of the stupid is invincible and guaranteed for all time. The terror of their tyranny, however, is alleviated by their lack of consistency.

My humble-o-meter is stuck at - 1000.

It followed from the special theory of relativity that mass and energy are both but different manifestations of the same thing — a somewhat unfamiliar conception for the average mind.

Yet some think he really said that thing about the fish climbing a tree.

Newton

If I have seen further than others, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.

You may protest, “this Newton's giants quote is actually the height of humility!” But as soon as those very words make it through your lips, you may realize the oxymoron, and perhaps the truth about its humility factor of a genius.

First of all, Newton refers to some people—the people he studied from—as giants. Even Newton knows as much about relativity to understand that there are no giants without men of ordinary stature. In other words:

‘If I were to admit it while flirting with the idea that I have provided you people with some monumental insight about the universe far beyond what my contemporaries have done.

I would prefer to say it is because I capitalized on the progress made by the titans of thought who are very much unlike common men such as you.

Note that my contemporaries also read those works, but I either did a better studying or they are inherently men of weaker intellect.’

Very little is humble about this. And about the giants, he said:

Plato is my friend — Aristotle is my friend — but my greatest friend is truth.

It's either these giants have a thing for dwarfs or he's not much smaller, to consider them his friends; where many would delightedly say, master.

The genius who does not know it is one who is essentially ignorant. If one has a conception of what defines greatness in any domain.

if they can identify this greatness in others, they ought to be able to identify it in themselves. Poor judgment is always poor judgment, what's left is hypocrisy. Jon Bellion puts it aptly in his song:

I can't pretend I'm not talented For me to fake humble's a corny way to be arrogant.

Mozart

A fellow of mediocre talent will remain a mediocrity, whether he travels or not; but one of superior talent (which without impiety I cannot deny that I possess) will go to seed if he always remains in the same place.

We know that the above accounts do not paint the full picture. Many times, elements of what we may call humility are expressed. Like this one supposedly by Socrates:

I myself know nothing, except just a little, enough to extract an argument from another man who is wise and to receive it fairly.

We may find words of a similar spirit by most of the persons quoted above. This should not be confusing, as there is actually a method to the arrogance of genius:

The genius is either apparently proud or humble depending on what direction it looks. When it looks to the heavens, it is consumed by the complexity of the cosmos, feeling eternally grateful whatever ray of comprehensibility manages to break through the cracks. When it looks around, it is disgusted by the incurable plague of stupidity exhibited by the unenlightened. The arrogance does not stem from a belittling of the fellow man, but the higher exaltation of truth above all else.

Newton's words reflect the former site of the emotional coin:

I do not know what I may appear to the world, but to myself I seem to have been only like a boy playing on the sea-shore, and diverting myself in now and then finding a smoother pebble or a prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me.

On the other hand, Goethe expresses the latter:

I have often felt a bitter sorrow at the thought of the German people, which is so estimable in the individual and so wretched in the generality. A comparison of the German people with other peoples arouses a painful feeling, which I try to overcome in every possible way.

The mysteries of the cosmos have a humbling effect on whoever tries to unlock them. But the idea of the genius eternally humble sage leads to a paradox if genius is supposed to know their own humility.

At the curtains close, we sign out with Picasso:

When I was a child my mother said to me, 'If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.' Instead, I was a painter, and became Picasso.

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