How do I decide or taking important decisions wisely?

by Md Kawsar Munna | Apr 29, 2021 | Knowledge

These problems are especially prevalent when making important decisions.

Today you will be informed about the main ways to make the right decision and the methods to get rid of indecision. But before that, let's find out what kind of people make the wrong decision most of the time.

Who makes the wrong decision?

Basically, two types of people make wrong decisions. The number one group of people is those who are afraid to decide anything. Thinking too much makes your head hurt, but even after thinking so much, you are afraid to come to a conclusion. Then, when the time is near, something works out discussion is something that is often bad.

And the people of group number two are very brave or very restless. They don't care if they need to make a decision. A lot of 'hold the board - hit the nail' type. Small or large - any task they want to get over quickly. They say, "I work first, which will be seen later." 

Although this attitude is necessary in some cases - if it becomes excessive, the loss is greater than the gain. And for some, as a baby gets older, he or she will outgrow this.

Basically, these two types of people make the wrong decisions most of the time. Think carefully - do you have any of these two? And keep reading the way to make the right decision and the way to get rid of indecision. To be successful in any field of life, you must know how to make the right decision.

Here are 5 ways to make the right decision and get rid of indecision:

While researching ways to make the right decision, we searched through various websites, journals, and magazines and found a total of 5 ways - which can be useful for everyone. So let's find out the 5 ways.

01. The goal must be clearly defined:

Many people decide exactly what goal they want to achieve - without considering it well. This increases the likelihood that the decision will be wrong. Now, many may say, does anyone think of making a decision without knowing the goal?

It is true that people have a purpose in mind when making a decision. But often that purpose is not clear. It is important that the goal or objective is clear enough to make the right decision.

Let's give an example. Suppose Assad has just finished his studies. Now his goal is to get a 'good job' and earn 'good money. It must be a goal - but it is clearly stated or ' clearly defined' is not.

Now, remember, Assad, got a good job, and a good salary. But after a while, it turned out that he was not enjoying his work, and from there he could not learn anything new - so that he could improve further. Day by day his needs increased, he got married, he had children - but his income did not increase in that proportion. In the beginning, the money that seemed good at first now seems to be very low.

 After all this time, Assad realized that he had made the wrong decision. So that you can easily understand the matter - so I have chosen a common example. But behind every one of our wrong decisions is the lack of this clearly defined goal.

Now let's talk about how to set clear goals. That means solving this problem. Come back to Assad's words. His goal was a good job and a good salary. But if he had set more specific goals, he could have made better decisions. 

For example, what he really wants to do in a job, what kind of position he wants to work in, what he really wants to learn from the job, and how much money he wants to earn from it - if he had considered these - he would not have been in danger later.

Maybe he should have gone out after studying English - in which case he should have used his education - he should have been looking for a job so that he could enjoy the job. It was also necessary to calculate exactly how much money is needed to support the family nowadays and for future financial security. Maybe he needed to earn around Tk 50,000 a month. 

His decision to start a new family was also wrong because he did not do this calculation. So no matter what you decide to do, it is important to know exactly what you are going through. Then it will be much easier to make the right decision.

02. Write down the details before making any major decision:

Even if we don't realize it, we spend our whole day making decisions, big or small. Get up in the morning and take a bath with hot or cold water, what to eat for breakfast, what clothes to spend the day after - these are all small decisions. There is no need to spend too much time behind these decisions.

But when it comes to making big decisions - such as starting a business, changing jobs, enrolling in a university, or choosing a course of study - you need to think deeply and carefully. And it is important to write down the details involved in the decision. Many of us do not consider this work unnecessary. But if you do this, the chances of making the right decision will increase a lot.

Writing down the facts or issues involved in the problem and solution will reduce the chances of some omissions in the decision-making process. If you have a written recipe in front of you while cooking, there is no possibility of omitting any ingredients during cooking, just as there is no possibility of omitting any ingredients even if the issues involved are written in front of you while making a decision.

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What to write?

# Goal:

As I said before, before you make a decision, you need to know exactly what you want from there - the goal and purpose. If you decide on a page what goals you want to achieve - write them down - then the matter will become much more detailed and clear.

# Pros and cons:

Any decision will lead to some good and some bad results. If you leave your current job and move to a new one - in addition to gaining some benefits from the new job, you will lose some of the benefits of the current job. After receiving a new job offer, it would be better to stay in the previous one or join the new one - if you want to make the right decision, you must make such a list. In English, it is called the 'pros and cons list'.

Write the good side of joining a new job on one side of the paper, the bad side on the other side. It is better to spend some time in solitude while doing this. Write down whatever comes to your mind. When you finish writing, consider the good and bad aspects and make a decision. This will greatly reduce the chances of your decision being wrong.

03. Consider other factors involved in the decision and keep in mind the long-term consequences:

A decision can affect many things. As well as what looks good in the short term, it may not be what it looks like in the long term. Let's go back to the example of Assad mentioned in point 1. When he first decided to take up his job, it was not a matter of job satisfaction or professional satisfaction. Because of this, he was in danger later.

When he joined the job, he did not think about whether he would like to do this job or not. Or whether he can learn something from it that will advance his career. He got into trouble later because he did not consider these issues related to the job.

Many of us are inclined to make many decisions and then get into trouble. There are other factors to consider when making a decision. If necessary, you can write these down. One of the great advantages of writing is that when you sit down to write, you remember a lot of things that just don't come to mind when you think about them.

In addition to the issues involved, the long-term consequences of any decision need to be considered. What is a good decision today that may have bad consequences tomorrow? So before making a decision, one has to think about the long-term consequences of the decision in addition to other issues related to it.

If Assad had thought about marriage and children a few years before he decided to take the job, he might have been looking for another promising job. Where there were opportunities for rapid improvement in career and financial condition. As a result of making decisions without long-term thinking, many people are in danger.

Before making a big decision, try to figure out where the impact will be after a year. Sit down with a pen and paper if needed. Write the decision in the middle. Write around him the issues involved in the decision. Now think about how the decision can affect some issues as well as at what time. What will be the effect after 1 month ?, What will it affect after 1 year? What will happen after 2 years? - Keep thinking like this.

It may seem a little strange to read the matter. But then when you sit down and make a big decision and consider things in writing like this on a piece of paper - then you see, there are a lot of things catching your eye that don't catch on. If you make a decision in this process, you will see that your decision is going much better.

04. Don't indulge in emotions:

Those who make more emotional decisions actually make the wrong decisions most of the time. I'm not saying that emotion is a bad thing. Emotion is actually a much bigger inspiration. Happiness, love, Maya, ambition, self-confidence - all these emotions make people great.

But the decision to prioritize emotions is often wrong. We often make big decisions in our lives because of our emotions - which in a short period of time leads to our downfall.

Only by being angry do we end up in many relationships, which leads to grief for the rest of our lives. Again, many people get emotional and get married without thinking - and most of the time that decision is proved wrong. But then there is nothing to do. The study, job, business - in these cases, giving more priority to reason than emotion increases the chances of making the right decision.

When you think with emotion, you see only the bad or good aspects of many things. But honestly, everything has its ups and downs. When you become emotionally blind, you only see the side you want to see. On the other hand, if you think logically, you will see the good and bad aspects of any subject. This will make it easier to make the right decision.

# Tips 1:

Before you make a decision, if you see that the emotion behind the decision is working too much, stop the decision-making process for that time. Taking a break will reduce the effect of emotions and you will be able to make a thoughtful decision in a cold head.

# Tips 2:

Whether emotions are good or bad, do not make any emotion the main factor in making decisions. Good emotions obscure the bad aspects of decision-making, and bad emotions do not allow good aspects to be seen. So take some time to make a decision based on good emotions. When the level of emotion decreases then make a thoughtful decision.

05. Seek the advice of the right people and do your own research:

It is always a good idea to seek expert advice when making decisions. If you come up with something out of the ordinary, then they have to re-think their position. But one thing to keep in mind is that the person you are seeking advice really wants the best for you, and he or she has the knowledge and experience to make that decision. 

Don't take anyone's advice just because you are older. You may want to seek advice from someone who has never filled out a tax form. In this case, if he gives you any advice - and you decide according to that advice - it is more likely to be wrong. 

So it is very important to choose the right person for advice. One thing to keep in mind in this case, to not rely too much on the advice of others in making decisions. If the decision is wrong then the guilt will be put on the person giving the advice and the relationship will be ruined. So, no matter how much advice you take, make the decision at your own risk.

In addition to taking advice from experienced and well-meaning people, do some research on what you want to decide. Look at books, look at magazines - that is, take as much knowledge as you can about decision making - this will greatly increase your chances of making the right decision.

Last words:

If you know the right decision-making methods and can use them to make the right decision most of the time, then you will be free from the curse of indecision. It will build your self-confidence. In fact, this lack of faith leaves people in indecision. We are not saying that following these procedures will make you the right decision in all matters. 

But instead of making decisions without thinking or thinking too much, your chances of making the right decision in the process will increase a lot. Whatever decision you make, you can make that decision through a tidy process. And you get a good idea of ​​what the consequences will be. You will understand how to go about each step, and which ones need to be done and which are not.

The key to success in life is to make the right decisions. And to make that right decision easier for you - that's why I'm writing this. Even if this article helps you a little in making the right decision - then we will think that our purpose is successful.